- Family and Parenting
Things People Don't Tell You About The First Year With A Baby
Are You A First Time Mommy or Mommy To Be?
Buckle your seatbelts. I'm about to tell you things you may not have been informed of yet. Keep in mind, I am a first time mom and my daughter just turned a year old. I am only speaking from my own experience, but surely, I can't be the only new mom to experience these things.
I am not sure why these things aren't included in the new mommy handbook. Wait ... there isn't one of those? Well, good to know I didn't just misplace mine.
So, when you're pregnant, you get all this advice. Everyone wants to tell you how you should do things, what you should by, where you should shop, who you should see. Everyone wants to tell you stories and reenactments of their own experiences, but no one tells you the these things. The things we should know before we bring a baby home from the hospital.
You Will Become Obsessed With Poop
Babies don't really do a lot in those first few months. They eat, they sleep, and the poop. It's a pretty regular occurrence It doesn't matter how you plan to feed your baby, the waste has to come out eventually.
In the few days you are in the hospital after giving birth, they will give you a log to chart how many times and how much your baby has pooped. I think this makes us start to obsess over the poop quantity that our babies are putting out. Don't get me wrong, it's important to keep track of how much your baby poops.
However, new mommies tend to obsess. You will know when you are obsessing when you are telling your friends how many times little Johnny is pooping. When you are in the middle of polite conversation and you blurt out that little Ruby hasn't pooped in three days.
- Signs of Postpartum Depression
Approximately 10 percent of women will suffer from postpartum depression. Symptoms usually begin occurring in the first week or two after birth. In many cases they can last up to a year.
- Postpartum Depression, knowing when to get help
Postpartum Depression affects millions of women every year. Knowing the symptoms and getting help are the most important things you can do for yourself and your new baby.
You Will Want to Shake A Baby
Don't shake the baby. I'm not advocating for shaking babies, we all know that is wrong.
People will tell you that you won't get much sleep in those first few months of being a mother. That you will be deprived of sleep is an understatement. There's more too it than that.
Pregnancy isn't the only time your hormones are heightened. After giving birth, you will be a whirlwind of emotions good and bad. Pair that will sleepless nights and crying babies. You will feel like you want to snap. You will be overwhelmed. You will understand why there are people out there that might want to shake their baby.
It's normal. Don't feel bad about it. However, if you do feel the need to ACTUALLY shake your baby, you may be suffering from more than just the baby blues, you may have postpartum depression, in which case, you and your baby can benefit from you seeking help.
Your Hair May Fall Out
This isn't really baby related, but a new mom should know this little tidbit. I had no idea that this could happen after having a baby. No one told me that your hormones are on super hyper drive while pregnant and then after the baby, they start to slow down. It causes you to lose the pregnancy glow and the long luscious locks of hair.
The first time I was in the shower and pulled clump after clump of hair out of my head, I nearly freaked out. I was told by my OB/GYN that this was normal. Well, thanks for sharing that before I had a heart attack. I thought for sure that the birth of my baby gave me some weird cancer no one had heard about.
Come to find out, it's normal. All along, women have been dealing with this little piece of information and no one is sharing it!
You Won't Love Every Second of Motherhood
I don't care who you are. I don't care where you live. I don't care if it's your first child or your fifth. No woman loves motherhood every second of their life. You can tell me that you did. I know you are lying. I don't feel the need to make other mothers feel like crap.
You aren't going to love being a mom all the time. It's not rainbows and butterflies. Motherhood is hard work. Especially, those first few months of caring for a newborn. You are likely to be exhausted, cranky, hormonal and raging.
It's okay to say that you don't like being a mom at any given moment. You don't have to feel guilty about it. Don't stress too much about it. It doesn't mean you love your kids any less. It means you are human and you are able to recognize when you have met your breaking point. If you have met that breaking point and you feel as though you may cross it, seek out some help, but don't ever be ashamed of it.
Live In the Moment - Don't Make It Go Faster
First time moms like to get ahead of themselves. Babies will meet those milestones when they are ready. When the baby is laying on their back still, we wish they would roll. When they start to roll, we wish they would crawl. When they are crawling, we wish they were walking.
Take it from me, don't wish the milestones to come and go. Take them as they come and enjoy them. The more the baby progresses and becomes more mobile, the more your motherhood will become complicated.
Our daughter just turned one and she has started to walk and climb. It means she's into everything. It means I have to keep a much closer eye on her. It also means she keeps a closer eye on me. She will accompany me to the bathroom, stay under my feet in the kitchen while I cook, try to catch the broom when I am trying to sweep.
Believe me, you don't want to make them hit milestones any sooner than they are expected to.