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Things women should think about before starting to plan a family
Planning Advise for women
It's very important for women to think about the issues and challenges that are involved in having baby. Before you start planning for your baby, it's very important for women to think about how life is going to be after having baby and what are the challenges involved in having baby. First of all before you start planning, I would suggest to every women to go on a relaxing vacation because trust me your life would be very different for upcoming 18 months once you are pregnant. Forget about going out on vacation for your 9 months of pregnancy. Once you delivered the baby you need time for yourself to recover and then in order to take care of your baby you have so much restrictions when you plan going out. So if you are outgoing women please take a break before planning and take a short vacation on your earlier weeks of pregnancy. I am telling you from my experience that I haven't gone anywhere for 9 full months and then I was so tried that I longed to go out but then as the time came nearer it was not possible to go anywhere after that. It's very important for women to spent time with her husband before and during pregnancy, going out to some place away from home. Because husbands are not going to understand how our life will be changed drastically after pregnancy. Guys life is changed a little bit only after you have baby in your hand. That too if you have your parents or in-laws then his life wouldn't be affected that much. There are some of the things you don't do once you are pregnant like wearing high heels. I haven't wore them for almost 16 months. Watching movie in a theater would be like a dream after having baby. So the first important advise for everyone out there is spend quality time with your husband.
Another important issue that comes in once you start planning is if you are a working women, you need to plan your vacation and be clear with you husband upfront how you are going to take care of your kid. This particular issue needs to be discussed with your husband way before you get pregnant. Otherwise you will be stuck and nowhere to go. It will make your life miserable with all those pain, hormonal changes and handling new motherhood. Also if you are planning to change your home or apartment do so before you get pregnant. Once you have your baby, you need to take full rest and do nothing except taking care of your baby and yours. The home needs to be functional not perfect. You need to do so for at least 60 days. Forget about cooking, lifting weight and other things if you delivered by C-Section. C-Section takes at least 2 months for recovery and even then after that you are not at your full pace. Please do talk with your husband that you are not going to cook at least for 2 months or till the time you get better. If this part is not well communicated, even though you have your in-laws or parents your life will be miserable. You need to survive on pain killers if you keep doing your routine work even while staying at home. You will also have mood swings because of those hormonal imbalance.
Only plan when your husband is ready to take half or more than half responsibility because it's not him who is going to bear the baby for nine months and deliver. It's you.