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Time-starved Single Parent: What To Do
Being a single mother, it seems that 24 hours are not enough for her to be able to do her duties as a good mother. With her doing the office work and housework, there's little time left for her children.
This is often the scenario that most single mothers encounter after their husband left them, perhaps for other woman. It is expected that the children are still trying to cope with and adjust to the new arrangement in the family without their father. As a mother, it is important to give your children enough time to deal with the new setup. What's admirable about children is that they have a short memory for unpleasant things.
Just like the mother, children are suffering from loss too. As a mother, What is important is your reassurance that they are not to blame for the separation. Also, you should remind your ex-husband about important dates, such as birthdays or school activities of the kids.
Spend A Quality Time With Your Children
Even among couples with a good marriage going, time is still something to reckon with. After all, it's not so much the quantity of time that will spell the difference. Instead, you should make the little time with your children. As a mother, you should know that quality time spent with your children is always better than buying things, such as clothes, gadgets, or even toys, to make up for an absent parent.
As the sole breadwinner, single mothers often work till late in the evening. They work very hard to merit a promotion. As a result, they cannot help their kids do their homework. It's true that homework does really require time. But if your children are good in class--sometimes children of single parents do better than children of married parents--when you have to stay late in the office, it would be better to call them and do the homework with your children over the phone. You can tell your children to do the easiest ones, and they can leave the difficult ones for you to do when you get home.
Lastly, self-pity is a common effect of being a single mother. You should never indulge in it. As a single mother, you have to become an empowered woman. You can only maintain this attitude if you continue to ask God for wisdom and strength. Regardless of the conditions that have brought you to being a single mother, you still have the obligation to raise your kids, and a great chance to make a strong bonds with them that will last forever.