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To New Fathers - Don't Diss Daughters
Daughter, Son, It Doesn't Matter
As a new father, I can say that having a daughter has thus far been the best experience of my life. No doubt about it.
Every new moment I spend with her is better than the last. Ever new day brings something completely new. It is very cool and I can't wait to see what kind of person she grows into.
I imagine that having a son would be equally exhilarating, and I would like to experience it someday.
But, with that being said, I never did, nor will I ever, come out and say that I have to have a son because in doing so it implies that I didn't want a daughter or wouldn't want another one.
Really, I was just excited to become a father.
If You're a New Dad, Don't Diss Daughters
For whatever reason, a lot of new fathers are terrified of having a daughter, or just plain donít want one. Often times they say things like, "I hope it's a boy (ie: not a girl), and "I don't know what I would do if it's a girl!
That drives me nuts!
I would like to know how that makes their wives or girlfriends feel?
I'm curious if those dads later on in their daughter's lives tell them that they wished they had been a boy. I mean, they were so willing to let everyone else know.
It's likely they don't. Why? Because it was a jerk thing to say to begin with.
What's funny is that whether the baby is a boy or girl is completely determined by the father's "contributions", so if it doesn't go as they hope they have no one to blame but themselves ... or their "contributions."
Books For New Fathers
Daughters are No Different
From what I can tell as a dad at this point, having a daughter is in no way different than having a son, or at least not until they reach maybe 13 or 14 years old at which time you should be a well-seasoned parent. And hopefully you will have your wife or girlfriend to help you out.
But first and foremost from day one, all you have to do as a new dad is love your child and take care of him or her just the same. Boy or girl.
There is no difference.
Now, I understand that the odds are more likely in favor of a son someday liking baseball or football and playing the games that you did as a child, but it isn't a guarantee.
It is just as likely that your son will become an artist, musician or avid hater of sports.
In fact, I know plenty of girls who are far more athletic or interested in sports than some of the guys I know.
So, to right out of the gate be hoping you don't have a daughter seems premature to me, especially since the odds are entirely 50/50, meaning there is a good chance it could happen.
If They're Healthy, Be Happy!
Really, throughout the entire pregnancy, all the way to the end, you should only be hoping for two things:
1) The health of your wife or girlfriend
2) The health of your new baby
Once all is said and done and both those things occur there shouldn't be anything to complain about or any reason to be disappointed.
Be happy! You're a new dad!
Fathers Still Have Fun
- Who Says New Fathers Have No Fun?
Unfortunately, a lot of people think life gets worse by becoming a parent, but really, it just gets different, especially in terms of having fun.
It's a Girl!
My wife wanted to keep the gender of our baby a surprise, so we decided not to find out until birth. Everything went extremely well throughout the pregnancy and the mystery remained intact.
I can tell you that the moment I first saw my baby girl I was filled with nothing but pride and joy.
I can't imagine the guilt I would still feel today if for even one single second I had thought, "Damn! I wanted a boy."
From my experience, I can tell you that if you have a daughter you will not be disappointed. It will open up a whole new world to you and probably even make you a better man.
So, the next time someone asks you if you want it to be a boy or a girl, please politely respond, "No comment."