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Don't hide your children's paternity! You will regret it.
Not knowing, hurts
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Tell children who their father is!
Should you tell your children about their biological father? I know first hand that the answer is YES!
I lived my entire life not knowing my father. When I finally found his family, he had passed away two years earlier. My mother had my whole life to tell me who he was so that I could've had a good life with him in it. But she AND her entire family chose not to tell me. I still don't know why.
Even if your childs father is nothing to brag about, or even if he made it clear that he doesn't care about his child, TELL THEM! They have every right in the world to know, and you're playing God by not disclosing this information.
I am lucky, my father was an incredible father, husband, and friend. I have four siblings that I could've grown up with and had a good life with. MY life was not good at all. Too many horrible things happened to me, and I know that If I would've had my father, my life would've been better. Not to say that bad things wouldn't have happened, but I would've had that support system to carry me through.
If the father of your children is not a good person, or if he wasn't a good person when you were together, so what! Your children have a right to know who he is. They need to know who he is. Maybe his family would welcome the children. But even so, medical history is a very important bit of information to have also. It can mean life or death in some situations!
If you don't know who the father is, find out! Do everything in your power to find out! It's your responsibility!
Should adopted children contact birth parents?
- Should an Adopted Child Contact Their Birth Mother or Father?
Should an adopted child contact their birth Mother or Father? "What advice can you give to someone who is adopted and would like to find his or her biological mother or father?" As an adopted child I can only speak from my own experience.