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5 Helpful Methods to Handle a Tantrum

Updated on August 1, 2014
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Dealing with a toddler who is constantly throwing temper tantrums can cause parents to question their parenting skills. This article reassures parents that tantrums are a normal way for some children to communicate. Most times, children outgrow the tendency to through tantrums .Five tips are given for helping parents survive their child's tantrum stage and to emerge safely on the other side.

Do you have a toddler who tends to throw temper tantrums? If so, do not despair. It is not a reflection of your parenting abilities, nor is it an insurmountable problem. In most cases, children outgrow their tendency to throw tantrums as they learn to express feelings of anger and frustration in more appropriate ways.

1. Remain Calm.

Unfortunately, this can be easier said than done. When dealing with an angry, screaming child, parents often react by becoming angry themselves and raising their own voices toward the child. While that may be a natural reaction, it is the exact opposite of what you should do. Reacting in such a way only feeds the tantrum. If you are able to remain calm, your child will likely follow suit in short order.

2. Keep Your Child Safe.

Many children express their anger by flailing around violently and perhaps even throwing themselves backward. As a result, they often hit their heads, fall off chairs, or injure themselves in some other way. Your primary responsibility during the tantrum is to make sure your son or daughter does not cause an injury to himself or herself.

3. Make Sure he’s far from other things.

Prevent your child from pushing or throwing objects when a Child has a temper tantrum while sitting at the dinner table, for example, his or her plate can easily end up on the floor. If the child is holding a toy, it may be hurled across the room (perhaps toward a brother or sister). Books may be tom or lamps may be pushed over during the outburst. Be aware of the potential dangers and restrain your child as necessary.

4. Provide a distraction for your child.

Try to draw his or her focus away from the subject of the tantrum. For example, if the tantrum was ignited over a breakable moment you do not want your child to handle, take advantage of your child's short attention span by directing his or her interest toward a favorite toy or noisemaker instead. The more familiar you become with your child's signs that a tantrum is imminent, the more you will be able to provide the distraction pre-emptively and , avoid the ordeal altogether.

5. Never give in to the tantrum.

If you do, you will be rewarding the tantrum and reinforcing the negative behaviour. Your child will learn that the way to get what he or she wants is to throw a temper tantrum. You will then find yourself in a seemingly endless cycle of one tantrum after another. Reward good behaviour, not poor behaviours.

Dealing with toddler temper tantrums can be a stressful, hazardous, and potentially embarrassing time for parents.

By consistently following these five tips, and by teaching your child better ways to communicate desires and express frustration, you and your child can weather the storm and emerge safely on the other side.



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      baby-care 4 years ago from Philippines

      You're welcome Mari, I'm happy to know that my article help you:)

      GodBless you!

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      Mari Koeck 5 years ago

      I'm going through this with my daughter. Thanks for the great tips!

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      baby-care 5 years ago from Philippines

      oh,, Im not familiar to that show but I'm glad because it's a effective way to handle the tantrum with out even hurting the child,, :)

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      Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ

      Andy Griffith used it on his son Opie, in the TV show Andy of Mayberry in the early 60's. I remembered it and thought I would give it a try. He used a lot of common sense in dealing with people, that really work.

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      baby-care 5 years ago from Philippines

      Yeah me too I have the same situation like you, my niece always scream and lay on the floor instantly so she always have lumps on head, and also this trick (same as you do) is really helpful to me, because it stop the tantrum to occur before it happens..thanks for you sharing.. God Bless you Peachpurple..

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      baby-care 5 years ago from Philippines

      wow that's great to hear, Actually it's my first time to hear that kind of method you use to make your daughter realize that she's wrong to act in inappropriate way,

      And it's really good idea.. Thanks for sharing your experience Becky..

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      peachy 5 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      Toddler tantrum can be very annoying especially when you are in a hurry. I always try to keep my calm and distract him him biscuits which works everytime.

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      Becky Katz 5 years ago from Hereford, AZ

      I stopped the temper tantrums in three tries. I calmly looked at my daughter with distaste and told her that if she was going to throw a tantrum, she should learn to do it right. I told her to lay on her stomach in the middle of the floor, kick her feet and pound her fists on the floor.

      It caught her attention and she started following directions. I kept coaching and soon she was laughing. Three times with that and she had it figured out that I wasn't going to respond the way she wanted. They quit from that day forward.