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Too Young for Etiquette?

Updated on April 3, 2014
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Neither, Nor Too Young for Etiquette

"Etiquette is essential in all areas of life, from wedding to funerals and everything in between. Even if you don't use all the information, its always good to have access to it."

-Debby Mayne

Etiquette teaches us to be kind, humble, considerate, and elegant. It enables us to earn respect and appreciation. Teaching kids the right ethics should be a mandatory for parents and guardians. In this field you are helping your kids support their future with confidence and integrity. Etiquette help them recognize the good and the bad, the better and the worst. This would also help them solve some issues at school, in public places, and social entanglement.

Basic Words Kids should discover as early as possible

  • Please
  • Thank You
  • Sorry
  • Excuse Me

Nowadays,we heard most parents claiming how polite and behave the children of their generations. Computer age had made changes in the lifestyle of every family. The very simple happiness of kids playing hide and sick, cooking games just with plant leaves and making use of the dried one as their money, playing games like "pick up sticks", jack stones, jumping ropes, and some guessing games had already been left behind by miles of the computer technology. Existence of computer games seem like it has a tremendous side effect on every child's behavioral pattern.

Here are various forms of etiquette for kids that will help parents simplify the solution for their patently wrong behavior. It is called the ELP2.

E=Eating Etiquette; L=Learning Etiquette; P2=Praying and Playing Etiquette


FORMS of Etiquette for Kids

  1. Eating Etiquette, Table manner is important. From 6 months of age up to an old age, eating became a part of our being. Habit forms during early age. Once bad habit forms it is difficult to change. Eating etiquette teaches one to become a cultured individual who gives emphasis on him wherever he goes. To be specific, burping while others are eating is a bad eating manner. Playing while eating is also inappropriate. Shouting or crying when eating can be irritating. Spitting and intentionally passing of gas is disgusting and rude. A good table etiquette has a wide spectrum. Etiquette is a requirement to become an elegant and cultured person. For instance, when dining you should wait for others to be served before eating, holding the fork and knife in proper manner, how to use table napkins, learn to wait until everyone is finished eating before leaving the table.
  2. Learning Etiquette, Kids should also learn some basics before entering school. There are do's and don't's. A polite greetings to everyone particularly their teachers. Being friendly to all the classmates to avoid fights with other kids. Tell your kids not to laugh at others mistake, that could give an embarrassment to the other person. Eating, talking with somebody else, or making noise or babbling while somebody is teaching is awkward. The pulling of one's chair, getting things without asking permission or taking home things not properly borrowed. Pushing and shoving when in line with the others is a bad manner. Cheating and bullying are also prohibited.
  3. Praying Etiquette, Kids must learn the praying etiquette.There should be strict rules to follow. Like making fun when praying is not good. Laughing or talking to a person who is seriously praying and making nose while others are praying should also be avoided. Running and screaming around is not proper. Kids should know how to give respect to the prayer itself. Tell them that the prayer is their way of communication to our Lord Almighty. Kids should be properly guided when praying. Bible stories should be told so as to keep their perception clearer and nearer to God.
  4. Playing Etiquette, Kids love the art of playing. They like the concept of playing all the time.But parents should help instill the right behavior when playing with the other kids. There are some examples to recall a few. Like calling their playmates a bad name. Grabbing something like toys or food from someone else. Throwing things when friends does not want to let them join on a game. Kids should learn how to interact in a positive way with their playmates. Playing sometimes help them become assertive individuals.


Learning  Etiquette
Learning Etiquette
Eating Etiquette
Eating Etiquette
Eating Etiquette
Eating Etiquette
Praying Etiquette
Praying Etiquette
Playing Etiquette
Playing Etiquette
Basic Words of Etiquette
PLEASE
THANK YOU
SORRY
EXCUSE ME
*YES, PLEASE.
*NO, THANK YOU.
Basic Words of Etiquette
Source
Awareness
Awareness
Patience
Patience
Collaboration
Collaboration
Appreciation
Appreciation
Dismiss the Prejudices
Dismiss the Prejudices

Helpful Parenting Tips

  • Be a Model. Being the model manner in your child's eye at times is self-torturing. Once you commit mistake, a child would rarely accept it if not accompanied with good explanation. Children are very keen in observing the adults.They instantly put on comment when they notice that something is wrong. I have always told my kids to listen and keep an eye to my good intentions of disciplining them. Kids are very sharp, they ask too many questions.
  • Learning starts at home. Kids pick-up their virtues at home. Their parents are their first role models. An effective communication and honest conversation with your siblings will promote a higher degree of social practice.
  • Be specific. Give your child the perfect words where you can easily grab their attention and listen to it without being skeptical. Drive away their fears and start their focus on the issue. This will teach them to communicate in a proper manner.
  • Point out some strict rules. Stick with the rules. Do not give rules you unlikely follow. Their points of view with every rule develops through observation on an adult supervision. Kids doesn't want to always disobey, they instantly feel the guilt once they disobey any certain rule. Do not give them the idea of breaking your own words. Thus this makes them disrespect.
  • Patience. Parents to their kids will notice that although there were so many times a rule had been pointed out, kids oftentimes forgot. Being redundant doesn't mean 'not good', parents should never give up their patience. A constant reminder will hep them realize the difference of the bad and a good manners.
  • Awareness. Being aware to most of the kids activity will help parents identify a particular behavior of their child which needs to be properly addressed. Lack of awareness sometimes will push your kids to state unintentional lies that if not being corrected might lead sooner to true lies.
  • Collaboration. Working together with your kids on any situation or circumstance can help your child uplift their self- esteem and confidence.This will also help diagnose symptoms like ADHD, Autism, and some behavioral pattern that needs medical diagnosis.
  • Appreciation. Give their good deed a praise. Never ignore their positive action and victories. Thus, this will leave a remarkable success within them. Kids love being praised and always wanted the adulation from elder people.
  • Dismiss the prejudices. Giving bad opinion will leave an impact to their behavior. Instead, encourage them more and teach them how to become a determine individual. Instead of telling them how bad it looks like, explain to them politely the consequences of their action. That way they can have a better understanding.

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      agapsikap 3 years ago from Philippines

      Dear Bill,

      I am pleased! Thanks for the compliment.

      I have often been praying that hopefully more parents will try to focus more attention to what is valuable than what is needed. But needs divert the attention of many to what is needed rather than what is valuable.

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      agapsikap 3 years ago from Philippines

      csmiravite-blogs,

      Thank you! As my fellow kababayan, I knew how Filipinos strongly believed that manners should come first. How we raise our kids with respect to elders and humanity determine the strong foundation of their character.

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      agapsikap 3 years ago from Philippines

      epbooks,

      Thank you!

      Yes, everyone should in order to guide the young minds that became so busy dealing with their techie gadgets.

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      agapsikap 3 years ago from Philippines

      CharronsChatter,

      Thank you so much!

      :)

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      agapsikap 3 years ago from Philippines

      sleepylog,

      I do not know why but it looks like proper etiquette is slowly dying. Kids at a very young age screams freedom as if they really knew how to handle everything right. Your kids will be proud of you because you taught them well something they should be proud of.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love the message in this article. It seems to me that over the years I have seen a decay of etiquette. As a teacher for eighteen years I feel safe in saying that poor parenting is the root cause of this. It always begins at home, and that is why articles like this one are so important. Well done!

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      Consolacion Miravite 3 years ago from Philippines

      This is a great hub! Learning really takes place at home. Children tend to remember what has been taught to them as a child. My own daughter created her own school at home when she was barely 3 years old. She had a make-believe classroom with all her dolls as students, and she - the teacher. She had a mini blackboard and babbled away to her students and pet cat. She imitated what she saw in a cousin's school when I brought her to visit. Hence, it is really important to impart values and good manners to children early on as that will serve as a guide on how they will react to the world someday.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Great hub - I think everyone needs to learn etiquette. It makes such a difference!

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      Karen Robiscoe 4 years ago from California

      You are a HUBber after my own heart. As a sometime beleaguered aunt, I advocate everything you say! Teach your children manners! There is a limit to "adorable" and "self-expression".

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      agapsikap,

      Aw, thanks! Coming from an awesome mom like you, I really take that as a compliment!

      Hugs,

      Cat

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      Sleepylog 4 years ago from Australia

      I agree, kids need to be taught etiquette. I made sure my kids grew up to be polite and respectful and now, compared to other teenagers and young adults, my kids almost seem as if they come from another planet because so many of them have no idea of social etiquette. People always tell me what a credit my kids are to me and to society and I'm very proud of them.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you midget38. So true..

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      It 's just so sad that schools and the modern day education system does not focus on the needed - good manners, because it is actually the foundation of everything else! Thanks for sharing, and passing round, agapsikap!

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thanks Cat, One thing I knew is, for sure, you're one of those moms out there who serve as a real role model to their kids. You'll know it once your kids hugs you and appreciates you each and every day. Thanks for taking time reading and commenting, beautiful!

    • Cantuhearmescream profile image

      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      agapsikap,

      Thank you! There can not be enough said about teaching kids manners today. Parents seem to have gotten lazy and the kids today are not the kids of yesterday. You have so many good tips in here but I think the most important is simply being a good role model, lead by example and let your kids know what is right and what is not. Seems relatively simple, yet not done nearly enough. This should be handed out to all parents in the nursery :D

      Excellent!

      Cat

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you, Au fait.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Lots of good advice here! Parents who do not guide their children in proper etiquette are doing them no favors.

      Voted up and useful!

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you, KoffeeKlatch Gals for stopping by and reading.

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Beautiful. Every parent should read this. There seems to be a deplorable lack of manners in children and adults these days. How sad is that? Up, awesome, useful, and interesting.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Hi Sidkemp, that was a beautiful story, concise and full of morals.

      Thank you for that very nice story and for your sincere comment.

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      Sid Kemp 4 years ago from Boca Raton, Florida (near Miami and Palm Beach)

      This is a wonderful hub on an important topic. I believe that etiquette should be taught right along with speech. I met a man who's boy was barely a toddler. He was at the "echolalia" stage, just imitating sounds he heard. He was in our kitchen. His father pointed to a slice of apple, and said "apple." The boy said "apple." The father said "apple, please," and the boy said "apple, please," and the father handed him a slice. They then repeated this with a piece of banana.

      The man was the personal secretary to the Dalai Lama, the man who says, "my religion is kindness."

      It is easier to train etiquette from the beginning than to untrain poor etiquette later.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Hi, indeed it is beingwell. Thank you for dropping by.

      Thanks also for commenting. A pleasant day to you.

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      beingwell 4 years ago from Bangkok

      We are never too young or old to have etiquette. It's a must in any functional society.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Dearest Martie, thank you so much for taking time to visit me here in my site. I'm glad you like it. I am very much pleased by those wonderful comments you gave me. Now, I'm learning Martie. I'm looking forward to learn brighter ideas from you, and Nelllieanna , and Bill. *THANK YOU*.

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Excellent hub, agapsikap! Really, you have what it takes to be a successful writer in Hubville and on the entire Internet. Absolutely perfect! I am a keen promoter of etiquette - good manners. In my view this is more important to practice than religious rites.

      I am sorry it took me so long to pay you a visit. I am trying to stick to my working schedule, and in the meantime I have so much to do in real life. Apart from being a mother/grandmother - having two of my grandchildren (aged 9 and 5) as neighbors - I am a bookkeeper, working from 8-1, and currently over my head with year-end procedures and income tax submissions for 12 companies. I am neglecting my online business as a writer (my hobby) and all my wonderful 'relatives' and friends in cyberspace terribly!

      Nellieanna is my mamma in Cyberspace. You are welcome to adopt her as yours as well. She is simply the best.

      I will return to read your other hubs as well. In the meantime follow your Muse and keep on publishing your work.

      We are not allowed to promote our hubs in the comment section of fellow-hubbers's hubs, but this hub of mine is meant for newbees. If you follow this schedule you will soon be connected to all your kindred souls.

      https://hubpages.com/community/HubPages-A-Feasible...

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      A pleasant day to you,dearest Nellieanna. I'm sorry that I failed to read the special message you gave me on Martie's hub. Thank you for the warmth of a welcome.

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      Nellieanna Hay 4 years ago from TEXAS

      Good for you!! It will be valuable!

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Indeed it is, Careermommy. If one parent doesn't want to see their kids lost in the realms of immorality, then one must act right away to change what is needed to be change and teach what is needed to be teach. Thank you for reading and commenting.

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      agapsikap, I agree that this is such an important lesson to teach our kids, and it begins with parents being the best example for them. Thank you for sharing.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Hi there,Nellieanna! Thank you so much for giving me the drive to proceed with such relevant subject which at first gave me doubt to tackle that same kind of issue maybe because for me I was still in the early stage of my learning through net. And I'm so thankful you gave me enough reason why I need to push it through.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Hi, Janet! It is my pleasure to write an article that would make even just a little contribution to many parents like us who happen to evaluate further the tendencies of having and not having good etiquette on our children. Thank you for the very nice compliment you are giving my hub.

      Others might say, it is easier said than done which is sometimes happened to be true especially if one parent has to give up his patience on raising their child properly. But a parent should realize that they themselves are the primary key on how kids will comply to the good tendencies of their well being.

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      Nellieanna Hay 4 years ago from TEXAS

      I'm so pleased that you're researching the Netiquette site. It is something that would benefit all that use the net for interaction with others. It was published when interaction was more limited & addressed the common problems that people had. But it is still very relevant.

      I'm also pleased that you welcome my comments! I look forward to reading more of your work! I find it quite encouraging that young parents are teaching their children to be courteous! For sure, more of that is needed!!

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      Janet Giessl 4 years ago from Georgia country

      Thank you for writing a hub about such an important topic. Being an educator and a parent I'm really upset with some of the children's behaviors here in Germany. Many of them don't know how to be polite and respectful to others. More and more parents forget to teach the good values and to be a good model. What a pity! I love your hub. It's very valuable and well presented.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      Thank you so much, Nellieanna! I'm so happy and pleased to have you here in my site. Thank you for appreciating and for leaving those lovely words commenting on my hub. I can't pick a perfect word to describe how much I appreciate you dropping by.

      I have read "Netiquette" a few days ago, and I am beginning to conduct a thorough research for this. Thank you for giving me a hint.

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      Nellieanna Hay 4 years ago from TEXAS

      What a delightful and valuable hub! Good ettiquette, manners, courtesy - whatever it's called - is very important and it is when young that people learn what it is and how to express it!

      There's also something called "Netiquette" which outlines how to be courteous to others online. It hasn't been pushed too much for awhile, but it was when I started online. It can still be found on Google, I think.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      @DDE, thank you for such wonderful words.

      As parents learn to value their own persona, its is their time to initiate the good values they think is appropriate for their kids to follow in order not to bring the mistakes of the past to their kids future.

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      agapsikap 4 years ago from Philippines

      @mysticalrose, thank you for reading and commenting on my hub.

      Being a parent is an enormous duty one can have. An opportunity of a lifetime.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Brilliantly written and focused on such an important learning stage of a child's life. Parenting is most crucial as learning starts at home.

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      mysticalrose 4 years ago

      That is a nice article. Your article is a reminder on how to be a great parent too.