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Understanding the voice of reason
A gentle voice
The voice of reason
We all have our own distinctive way in expressing ourselves and reaching out to others in establishing friendships and meaningful relationships in our lives. We learn this from the many people we meet and the many influences and experiences we encounter through the years as we grow and develop as individuals with our own feelings, ideas, visions, hopes and dreams.
To truly learn and understand about life and growing up we have to have faith, believe in ourselves and the ones closest to us and find someone we trust and respect who we can learn from. Our parents are usually the first voice of reason we have in our life and they guide and encourage us to aim big and reach for the stars with their wisdom in relating their own personal experiences to us.
I remember as a young child always looking up to both my parents and always feeling safe, respected and loved. I realized that I would learn from them and that they would always be my sounding board. We all feel alone in our lives no matter how many people surround us because we have to one day take charge of our life and be responsible with the choices and decisions we make. We will learn along the way and will look to others as a natural instinct but we will have to figure it all out on our own. It takes a lot of courage to embark on a personal journey we all hope will lead to happiness and success. Success and happiness is all relative but it is a necessary part of life and living and it is what makes us all special and drives us to achieve and to take charge and live our lives to do our very best.
We also learn in life that patience, knowledge, courage, ambition, desire, struggle, optimism, hope, vision, hard work, dedication, confidence, imagination and that little voice of reason we hear are essential and all necessary as we explore life and move beyond the familiar and what we were used to in our family day to day life.
That voice of reason is what hopefully teaches us to always respect others, to always try our best in all that we do, to never give up no matter how difficult things may seem, to live to love and most of all to love to live. Life is sometimes a journey with unexpected detours that take us to unexpected places and we must always try our best to adapt and hold on to that innocence we had as children to help guide us as our parents and teachers did in our youth.
I have experienced life now for 5 decades and can proudly say I have been blessed having grown up as a young boy with wonderful parents and 2 wonderful sisters. Now I am blessed as a grown man to have a wonderful wife and a special son who we both love and want to help. As I see my son grow I have a feeling in my heart that I need to protect him and hopefully help him with his struggles. I find that despite his struggles he has a great deal of potential that we need to help him tap into. I am now that voice of reason in his life and I am trying my best to be positive and to provide him with all my love and support and to always encourage him to believe in himself, to not get down because he is different having a diagnosis of autism and epilepsy and to have dreams, hopes and visions for a bright and happy future. My hope for my son is to always be there for him and to see him face his challenges with courage, determination, inspiration and an indomitable spirit.
I hold my parents in high regard for all they have done for me in my life and I am a better person because they were very loving and supportive parents and I try to follow their lead in supporting my son through his special needs. I am always trying to let my son know that he can achieve his dreams despite his challenges and I am reminded of a very successful person who I have come to know because I once worked for him and I have a great deal of respect and admiration for him. Despite his own learning disability he had created a very successful practice and a foundation to provide scholarships for those who have dyslexia.
I have been touched by others in my life and he comes to mind because he believed in me and made me feel good and gave me a chance when I was feeling a bit down. My start there was rocky because of my indecisiveness but he believed in me and convinced me to stay and for that I am truly grateful as I worked for him for nearly 10 years. I will never forget that and I wish him well in his retirement leaving his practice in capable hands with his son and stepson.
We become more positive and confident when others believe in us and that is why I wish to instill confidence and provide encouragement for my son and be there for him always. I will always try my best to be that voice of reason for him and hopefully he will learn and benefit and realize he can achieve and do great things even if he is autistic and has epilepsy.
Edward D. Iannielli III
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