- Family and Parenting
Voices of the Mind
Do you know you can make your children crazy? Do you know you can cause them to have psychological disorders? Do you know you can invoke spirits into your child? Do you know that whomever you have sex with may be carrying demonic spirits that will be a plague to your household and children when they’re born? Do you know your instability, issues, anger, and wrath are driving your family crazy, literally?
There are children and spouses that feel as if they’re walking on eggshells due to the temper of another. They are prisoners in their own “house.”
I once knew a man that had a paranoid schizophrenic father and a mother that was mentally ill as well. Later in life the young man felt as if he couldn’t function. He felt insecure and inadequate in many ways, and spoke painfully about some of the experiences he faced as a child. He was severely affected, which kept him from being a good husband and a confident man.
In another scenario, a woman with a fragile, timid, and soft personality as a child, was confused in her mind, because her father had anger issues and her parents were very strict. She was shy in school and bullied by kids. She felt like she was walking on eggshells, and the issues from her father drove her crazy. Her parents were negative and her father’s anger and rage over things that weren’t important were too much for her. Therefore, to escape the pain and sorrow of home and school she’d go off in her mind to another world.
These are only two scenarios in a sea of silent sufferers that have been affected by the dysfunction of the home and their past, and if not healed they will go through life affecting their children. Then their children will affect their children and the cycle will continue until someone breaks the chain on their mind.
If you have no place to go and you’re trying to escape family dysfunction, have hope, or find ways to function in the midst of chaos around you, below are 9 ways that may be beneficial to your recovery and well-being.
Hobby: Find a hobby or something you love doing. It could be arts and crafts, drawing, poetry, painting, knitting, etc. Doing things you love and enjoy will help put your mind in a positive place and shift your energy toward something more constructive instead of the negativity surrounding you.
Walking: Getting out in the fresh and open air (when weather permits) helps to clear the mind and senses. Plus it’s a good source of vitamin D.
Counseling: Many people suffer alone when they don’t have to. Finding a good counselor or a good Christian counselor may be a good option for you or your loved one. They will journey with you in discovery and path to wholeness.
Pet: It’s said that a dog is man’s best friend. Dogs or any pet of your choice helps to take the focus off you and the negative surroundings as you care for and nurture another. Sometimes coming out of ourselves and placing our attentions elsewhere in a healthy way will do wonders.
Humor: Do you like good comedy? Do you have funny friends? Do you like reading good jokes? Do you like telling healthy funny jokes? Finding a way to laugh and smile in the midst of your storm can work miracles for you and your family, especially your children if you have some. Laughter can brighten a dim day and bring healing to your soul.
Journaling: Journaling is a form of communication and a way to express your thoughts. It can help to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. It can even help you identify triggers that cause the stressors you’re facing. Keeping a journal of your thoughts, feelings, moods, and interaction with others can prove to be very beneficial.
Change of Environment: Sometimes the best way to gain control of your mind and life is to leave toxic situations and change your environment. You can’t change people but you can change yourself. You can’t control others but you can control yourself. Surround yourself with healthy people that are positive. Leave negativity and negative environments if you can. Get around those that have your best interest at heart and that can encourage you, uplift you, and walk alongside you. If you are a Christian/church-goer surround yourself with like-minded individuals that are healthy who will edify you.
Boundaries: Set healthy boundaries. Take control of your life. One of the hardest things for people to do is say no, but you CAN say no. Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual boundaries are very important. Your body, mind, emotions, and spirituality are yours and YOU decide who is ALLOWED to enter that space. Set healthy boundaries.
Bible: Study the scriptures and they will give you life. The storms of life will come and the wind will blow, but if your anchor is Jesus Christ you will not be moved. The Word is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works. 2 Timothy 3:16-17. The Bible will encourage you, uplift you, admonish you, and direct your paths. It will give you purpose and direction if heeded in faith. It will teach you of God and make you principled. If necessary, join a good bible study group and/or prayer group. It will help grow and encourage your faith. Be around like-minded believers.
Reader, if you are torn down it’s time to build YOU up, so that you can move forward and be of service to others. It’s time to stop the voices.