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Want to Be a Parent, Keep This In Mind

Updated on May 17, 2018
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Lanecia is a writer and blogger who enjoys inspiring others through self-help articles.

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Children are the light of the world, that is without a doubt. Children make the world a better place and without them, things just wouldn't so colorful and bright.

Just in case you are thinking about raising a little one of your own someday, there's some things you should consider before making that enormous step.

This is not to scare you away, but it takes a huge amount of responsibility and consideration for another person, so it just makes sense to be well-prepared.

Speaking on behalf of many parents across the globe, parenting is not any easy task and will require you to forget about your time and focus on what really matters.

Chances are you'll go through some of the best and the worst times of your life.

But, during those times you'll have two little eyes watching you with every step of the way for years to come.

If you are planning to one day become an awesome parent, here's some things you'll want to know about first.

It Will Not Be Easy

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Heartbreaks, temper tantrums, and juice spills will inconveniently come and go from time to time. Depending on the day, it might even get the best of you. Realize that there will always be good and bad times throughout the years.

Parenting comes with a ship load of emotions you'll learn to deal with as time progresses. It may feel like you are moving mountains sometimes in full zombie mode.

The little person you brought into this world comes with a lot of baggage, and it will be all yours for the claiming.

To make it easy on yourself, discipline and structure will make life more of a breeze. In other words, make a schedule and try and stick to it, if you dare.

Keep in mind, mini naps may take over your body, even when it is least expected. Remember not to fight it, just close those heavy eyes.

Not to worry, the rough patches of parenting is what makes the job worth while. These times and others help to mold us into the responsible adults we're meant to be.

Usually, you'll learn to turn the other cheek and try again next time.

Remember to find support as often as you can as it will make the journey a lot less stressful. Accept all the support you can get, remember you are not a know-it-all.

Utilize a little meditation every now and then, preferably as often as possible.

Please don't forget about your physical and mental well-being.

Keep these in mind and you'll go a long way.


You May Go Broke

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In addition to your everyday expenses, Christmas and birthdays will seem to roll around faster than you can blink.

Diapers, wipes, childcare, and damaged property are only a few of the worries you'll experience throughout your parenting endeavor.

For example, you'll probably become a coupon fanatic, discount store maniac, and for-free scavenger.

You'll often learn to save on items like clothing, bedding, and toys especially since children usually outgrow or destroy them. Most of the time, other parents will be willing to do clothing swaps or donate their children's items that are no longer in use.

Planning out your expenses early and keeping an organized agenda will allow you to have some flexibility in the huge cost of child expenses.

Keeping it simple is the way to go if you are looking to keep more money in your wallet.

Keep in mind that it's usually the simple things, such as quality time spent that children will learn to appreciate more.

You Won't Go Out As Much

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Remember those random drunken party nights and week-long road trips you spent with your single buddies? Prepare to kiss those goodbye.

As your little one is growing into a bigger person, you'll spend many late nights bottle feeding and changing heavy diapers.

Those wild nights will become something you will only dream about, since oftentimes you might be sleep deprived and longing for a good nap.

Date nights will also become a tense struggle, since your little one will demand the most attention from you and your partner.

But if you are really craving a night on the town, you'll want to find trusted and reliable babysitters.

Your children will become your prized processions, and you'll want to protect them every step of the way.

Your single friends may not understand your new commitment or responsibility.

They may even abandon you for a while. Don't worry, you'll find time for them and other things eventually. If they are true friends, they will stick around to support and keep you sane.

No single friends? Not to worry, you'll find other parents to befriend in the process, which can turn your late nights into fun play dates for the whole family.

You May Have to Get Tough

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Let's face it, parenting comes with thick skin. If you've seen or experienced the live birth of a baby, you know exactly what I mean. This part my friends, is bravery at it's finest.

There will be times where you'll literally have to get down and dirty on more than one occasion. That could mean diving in the sandbox after your little one becomes a human sandman. Or, you might even have to dive head first into the ball pitt to save your buried seed.

Remember to keep your cool, these things happen to the most "perfect looking" parents. Just remember this is life, things happen.

With all of the responsibilities on your plate, you don't want to make a fuss of the small things.

Oftentimes you'll be curious to know that your little one is being taken care of.

That may mean hour long talks about spit balls and dreaded teacher-parent conferences. You'll often hear good and bad stories about your child, don't get too emotional, just listen.

Have quality talks about the bad, praise the good, then move along.

You'll also be tested more often than not. You'll just have to take control over the situation without having a mental break down.

Milk stains will be a part of your everyday outfit, so wear it with pride and keep it moving.

Remember that not only are you a parent now, you are a living-proof warrior.

You Will Also Get Soft

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From those first baby steps to the time they receive their first prick in the thigh, it's possible you will become a crybaby.

You'll cry for them and they'll cry for you; it's like a give and take situation.

You'll feel for your children every step of the way. You'll want the best for them, and sometimes this will make you very emotional.

Oftentimes they won't see the reason behind your careful spirit. But they will learn with time that it is only to keep them out of harms way.

Realize that emotions are okay and this is how, we as parents, get it all out and relieve all of the stress and tension.

Embrace it all and keep pushing.


You Will Develop Patience

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It may take your child an hour to put his/her coat on when you have less than a minute to make it to work on time.

Then you'll learn to become an early bird and get things done as early as possible to avoid school and work tardiness.

When teaching your child to complete any new task you might have to repeat yourself about 100 times.

This is also true for the thousands of questions they will ask in one minute. Just reassure them that you are there for them.

It's all a part of the learning process.

You Will Have More Motivation

From here on out, everything you do will seem to affect the lives of your children.

From the job you choose, to the hobbies you wish to engage in; all of these things and more will influence your children in most areas of their lives.

That's why as a parent you'll be more likely more to fight for that level-up promotion or endure those long and sleepless nights taking college classes. All so that you can provide the best for your little one.

You'll become less carefree and more inclined to make things happen, regardless how tired or lazy you feel.

Your children will sort of serve as your motivation to get things done. Keep in mind that it is all worth it in the end, she will look at you as her knight in shining armor.

You Will Be Judged

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From the time you announce your expectancy, to the time your little one is ready to bust out the door into college, most people will have something to say about your choice of parenting.

You may look like a hot mess for weeks, and people will worry about you, and that's okay. Keep pushing and ignore the funny looks.

There will also be times when people will agree or disagree with what you are doing as a parent.

You can be doing good or bad, and someone will definitley have something to say about it.

Take the advice, or not, then proceed to be the best parent you can be in your own way.

You May Get Fat

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Unless you decide to live on a military-like diet and mindfully keep your waist in check, those gummy bears your kids collect at Halloween will often become a late night snack.

When you're short on time with hungry children to feed, McDonald's and Burger King has a way of making it convenient to skip that dreaded trip to the grocery store.

Let's face it, after a long day, fast food will be cheaper, plus you can get a hot meal without the hassle of sweating over a burning stove.

Even the grocery store can make it tempting to buy those giant sized Cheetos snacks for a convenient after school treat for the kids.

When you have a little one or two to chase around, the burnout might take a toll on your alertness.Therefore, heavy sweetener in coffee and sugary donuts might become your best friend. Ultimately, exercise might become a thing of the past.

It's common for weight gain to occur as we age. Try to squeeze in a few walking sessions and healthier habits. Remember to love your yourself as you are no matter what. Remember little eyes are watching.

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Thoughts to Take Away

I am in no way, shape, or form an expert on the topic of parenting. I am only speaking from the experiences I have encountered as a parent myself and among other parents.

I do not expect everyone to have the same experiences, since each one will be different.

So with that thought in mind, remember to only be the best parent you can be and help others along the way.

Parenting is not easy, but highly rewarding and only becomes easy with practice and patience. Take care of yourself and enjoy this wonderful experience!

© 2018 Lanecia Smith

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    • dredcuan profile image

      Dred Cuan 

      15 months ago from California

      There's a huge responsibility when a person becomes a parent. As he or she must leave everything behind, just to make sure the future of their kinds. I've seen my co-workers who are no longer enjoying their works but left no choice in our company just to support their kids. It's a sad truth, but that's reality. As a parent, you need to be brave, strong, positive thinker, hardworking and a lot more good characteristics that you must possess in order for the whole family to survive.

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      peachy 

      16 months ago from Home Sweet Home

      sacrifice your time for your kids

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