What Dinosaurs and Super Heroes Have Taught Me
Boys will be boys-
When we found out that our third (and last) baby on the way was another boy, I was floored. I just knew we were meant to have a girl. I could not imagine having three boys- we already had two! They were both very busy and noisy... How on earth would I be able to handle another one adding to the mix?
Well, he came- on Christmas Eve, no less. I loved him. I loved him so much, and loved every moment I could have alone with him. The two older boys were so good with him, even though they were only four and two themselves. It didn't take long before they were all running through the house, and needing reminders to walk.
My husband and I figured out in pretty short order that having three little boys wasn't easy. It has it's fun times and more than enjoyable moments, but very, very busy. Boys don't really care to sit still for very long. In fact, they shouldn't sit still for very long. They should be active, as all kids should. It's definitely part of what keeps them healthy.
Our two oldest boys have always loved super heroes, especially Iron Man and Hulk, but they also love Captain America, Thor, Baymax, Hawkeye, etc... Really, any super hero will do. They just love them. I don't understand it, but that doesn't matter. They're boys, and that's what they love to play with. I get it to a degree, I mean they are pretty cool characters...
From the time our boys were really young, we've heard "smash"es from our oldest (Hulk) and we've "seen" laser blasts coming from our middle child's hands (Iron Man). They try to work together and fight the villains, while our youngest is just whoever, fighting right alongside them. Very good imaginations here.
Our youngest child has been seriously into dinosaurs since he was about a year and a half old. He's simply infatuated with them, and never has enough of them. He has so many... He plays with all of them, though, from the very smallest Triceratops to the biggest T-Rex. He would want me to add this in here- Triceratops are his absolute favorite. He thinks they're cute. I think THAT'S cute.
He stomps around the house, he roars, he growls, whatever that particular dinosaur would make for a noise, that's what he does. He does it quite well, too, I might add. My husband and I chuckle, while overhearing his conversations among the dinosaurs- "Are you big? I'm big." "Are you loud? I'm loud." So. Cute. He's all boy.
What I've learned-
From the time our firstborn came along, I had to change a lot about the way I thought about raising children, particularly boys. Like most people, before I had children, I had my own opinions about the way everyone should be raising their's, when I really didn't have much of a clue. I could assume a lot, but I wasn't in the situation, so I didn't really know what to do.
I had to learn to allow my son to get dirty. This has never been easy for me to do. To this day, my husband has to remind me to just let them play and have fun. I cringe when they're outside, especially this time of year- spring. Just the other day, the boys were playing outside. I opened the door to see how they were doing and our middle child was standing almost knee deep in a puddle that was on the lawn. No joke. He had a great big smile on his face. I just looked at him, trying not to take ALL of his fun away, and told him that his boots just might be filling up with water. He stepped out of it, and sure enough... He kept playing, though, with that big smile on his face.
I've had to learn to let my boys BE boys. I have to let them explore, and sometimes that means they're going to get their clothes dirty, their sneakers dirty, their hands dirty, etc. (Although, there are times when they're playing in something they really should not be- poop. Every single one of them went through that spell. Thankfully, that was a long time ago. Raise your hand, if you've had a child that has taken their diaper off and had some fun with it? Yeah, it's no fun walking in the room to that smell.)
Moving on- I cannot encourage my boys to worry about this stuff all the time, because they will learn to hate it, when they should find much enjoyment in it. I want my boys to want to get their hands dirty. One day, they may want to become a mechanic, a farmer, a doctor, a fisherman, etc... When they become men, chances are they may not want to sit behind a desk all day. I want them to grow up with the knowledge of many different things.
I've had to learn that boys are different than girls. Yeah, my children are children, but they are boy-children. They think so differently than I do about so many things, and yet my husband can totally relate to them. He understands why they love to be loud, why they love to play video games, go outside and stand knee-deep in a puddle. None of these things sound fun to me. BUT, I'm a girl- a woman, but still a girl. I realize that everyone is different, and some girls LOVE these type of things. Good for you and more power to you! I guess I'm just a little too girly...
I'm still learning-
Each new day, brings something new to the table. Most of the time, my boys love to get up early and play, play, play. Are everyone's boys as noisy as our's are in the morning??? Please say yes! As they're getting older, they are doing better, but I swear it's taken a long time to get through to them to be quiet in the morning. They just don't even think about it. They're up, so everyone is. We've been working on being considerate- for years. I think it's finally clicking? I think... I hope. Our oldest is old enough to tell time now, so he knows not to get up until a certain time on Saturdays and Sundays. The other two know that they can't get up until after he does. It seems to be working?
Super heroes and dinosaurs have taught me to relax a little more. I have to let my boys play. I always have to keep in mind when planning to do something as a family, we keep it centered around the boys, not me. I would typically choose to do something else, but it's not about me. When we do things together, we have to keep the boys in mind. Otherwise, they will get bored really easily, and then NO ONE will have fun. Bored boys become really naughty, really quick. I've been privy to this way too many times in my mothered life, and believe me, it's not even worth attempting.
I love each and every one of my boys. I love it that they love to go help their dad do the chores in the barn, that they still love to give me hugs and kisses, that they love to stand in very deep puddles (I'm still not over that), and they love super heroes and dinosaurs. My life has changed so much since the day we had our firstborn, but I wouldn't trade any of this for the world. I'm happy, and they're happy. I'm their mom and will love them regardless of how grubby they get. We'll get cleaned up and try to stay clean for the next hour or so... (It's really not that bad- most of the time! It just seems like it, sometimes!)
So Moms, if you have multiple boys, or maybe even just one, let them get dirty. Let them go outside and play. Let them help you bake and cook. I know it's hard! I have to bite my tongue more often than not. It's good for them to do these things, and it's good for you to allow them to be a little independent, exploring their own little world. We need to let our boys be boys.
By the way- my middle son's boots are still wet. Just thought you'd like to know.
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