What It's Like to Parent a Child With Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (Adhd)
If most parents are like me, they spend an exhausting amount of time caring and attempting to prepare their children for the many challenges of life. Therefore, when a child fails and needs the kinds of help kids to require to do well, it’s heartbreaking to watch the stress and struggle.
All a parent wants to do is encourage and give the right support. Especially given the fact that the school system doesn’t often teach children with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) much, and they experience constant failure. When children have Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), They are labeled as having behavior problems, and that makes it even harder to assist them to build a solid foundation to live a lifelong successful life.
When a parent read about learning and attention issue, it’s something to think about, but it an entirely different thing when they witness the progeny through their child’s eyes. Children with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) have a tough time fitting in and being accepted by other children their age. The parent will need to know how to find a solution to this issue.
Every person with ADHD already knows that destination addiction is part of their disorder. However, if it doesn’t have a positive outlet, it can destroy your life. It is not another person that will make your life better; it is the qualities in them that you admire. Incorporate those attributes into your own life and you won’t miss a thing.
Shannon L. Alder
Also, I turned to similar sites to learn the specifics of my child’s focus, attention, and disability. Plus, I tried out the other different tools to see how my son can improve his organizational skills, increase his grade in math, English, Reading, Writing, etc.
There are various excellent sites with resources about the information I needed, but one I feel would be a significant advantage to parents in need is https://www.helpguide.org/articles/learning-disabilities/learning-disabilities-and-disorders.htm.
Also, I kept different folders to write goals and plans for my son daily. I even color-code them to plan for positive guidance and keep things running smoothly. I encourage parents who have a child with a learning disability to focus on the need of the child and not on what they have difficulty doing. That when I realize how much time would have to be put into loving and teaching the child to reach thrilling victories and not fall foolishly off course.
As a parent with a child with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) that struggled to adjust in life, I immediately begin searching for answers to my son’s issue. I learn the answers were not so black and white, and it would not be an easy task finding the right solution. Especially since caring for a child with special needs can become a full-time job.
I have always thought of myself as a loving and patient mother who worked with children and teens for over seven years in the school system. Also, I taught many children with learning and focused disability, but when my son was diagnosed with ADHD, it was hard for me to put myself in his shoes. And once I became a parent to a child with ADHD, I questioned myself and my ability to prepare and teach children with special needs.
They diagnosed my son with ADHD at seven, and after being diagnosed, the school setting increased his attention challenges. I think the worst part was watching my child experience isolation and depression after withdrawing from extracurricular activities, especially since I knew they cut him short of a lot of opportunities, and it cripples me. Although I knew he had a hard time sitting still for long periods, ADHD threw me for a loop.
After they diagnosed him, I immediately start searching to learn everything I could about ADHD. I discover his biggest challenge would be to sit for an extended period. Also, he will face fitting in with other children. It was hard watching the frustration on my son’s face when children reject his friendship. When he attempts to write, his hand could not write what his brain is telling him. I knew I needed answers, so after searching for a reply, I learn I had to set goals and help my son develop a social-emotional plan that will tackle challenges in the future.
Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a silent disorder that has affected children and adults of all ages. So a plan is needed, something that would lift my son's self-esteem for him to want to learn the different things he needs to know. A strategy that will help him grow into a healthy adult.
I had to face the reality that as a child grows and mature with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) if not deal with appropriately, they grow up to be an adult with a lack of focus ability. But when adequately treated a child can learn how to avoid being the focus of attention, and as a result, their extreme embarrassment experience with other children can go unnoticed.
That’s the other thing: Even if you’re on medication, you still have to treat your body properly and take care of yourself. The idea that ADHD goes away or you grow out of it isn’t true.
Ty Pennington
Thanks to the Internet, I had access to a lot of necessary information, and still, it was hard for me to understand my son's “Attention issues.” And there were times; I had moments where I felt I would like to hide away, avoid dealing with my son's disability and put off all the stress that came with it, and enjoy the quiet that follows the pressure.
My love for him was one thing that made me strive to ensure my son would not give up on not only learning in school but doing his tasks around the house. Experience firsthand how frustrating it was for him to complete a simple task when he was having trouble focusing, I came to the reality we as parents are not magicians. Therefore, we cannot make the learning disability disappear.
As a parent, it is our job to make sure the child gets the care they need and provide the tools necessary for them to realize how to live life as customary as possible. I know it can be hard work, and sometimes the child might even fall behind, but I am a witness that with hard work, the commitment is worth it.
ADHD is a neurological and behavioral disorder that affects not only the person with it, but the entire family, including parents and the extended family of parental siblings and grandparents. It tests the limits of the family’s ability to be supportive, understanding and loving.
Dresher Larry
Also, I turned to similar sites to learn the specifics of my child’s focus, attention, and disability. Plus, I tried out the other different tools to see how my son can improve his organizational skills, increase his grade in math, English, Reading, Writing, etc.
There are various excellent sites with resources about the information I needed, but one I feel would be a significant advantage to parents in need is https://www.helpguide.org/articles/learning-disabilities/learning-disabilities-and-disorders.htm.
Also, I kept different folders to write goals and plans for my son daily. I even color-code them to plan for positive guidance and keep things running smoothly. I encourage parents who have a child with a learning disability to focus on the need of the child and not on what they have difficulty doing. That when I realize how much time would have to be put into loving and teaching the child to reach thrilling victories and not fall foolishly off course.
ADHD is real and valid. The sooner we recognize the patterns and learn to work with these kids, the better assured we will be that they as adults with be healthy members of society.
Rhonda Van Diest
Children with ADHD experience fears and worries that brings about both bad and good moods throughout the day. Although they encounter these feelings, they still deserve and want to be loved. I will never stop being the advocate for my son, even though some days are challenging. I consider the days to be more of a gift, no matter how difficult they are.
What makes each day a gift during the times when things are ruthless is gracious knowing, I have the power to influence my child to see the world positively, which will change his life for the better. Everybody will not be supportive, and that can affect your child's ability to learn, but as their parents, we must attempt to make learning fun for them. Even with “Attention issues” children know how to learn in more ways than we know how to teach them.
Parents can put their children on track to be successful students by selecting what is right for them. I had to begin homeschooling my son for him to succeed in education. It was difficult for me to watch him return home from school each day sad all the time. He did not understand why he could sit still, and the other children did not want to be his friend. These issues took away from his ability to learn. It is up to the parent to teach their child how to deal with a learning disability, and it is not a simple task. But I learn how to apply the tools to my son's everyday life to help him deal with his disability.
Although my son did not understand how to do his class or homework at first, and it was tough to teach a child who was easily frustrated. However, I am proud to say after helping my son learned ADHD is a common disorder that affects focus. But with hard work and determination, knowing how to treat the disease I am pleased to state my son can finally focus learn to manage and minimize the symptoms.
Also, he completed high school and graduated with high grades. He did it with no medication to control his behavior. I am so proud of him and happy to say he is preparing to go to college. My son was determined to fight his attention problems and poor focus. I desired to assist him to do better and overcome.
After many tests and research, we found what was missing is the critical nutritional element in His diet, which throws His brain chemistry off balance. After learning this and correcting the issue, not only can He focus but being Hyperactive dramatically improve he could comprehend the plan we put in place to strengthen His grades, and most of all he could organize and keep His room clean. Although my son fought with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), It no longer defines him.
Do you agree the impact of ADHD can be extensive, affecting children and adult?
ADHD Symptoms: The ADHD Song
Persons living with ADHD can be grouped into three categories!
Diagnosis and Management of ADHD in Children
Clinical Presentation
| Diagnostic Criteria for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder
| Evaluation of ADHD in Children and Adolescents
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The diagnosis of ADHD should be considered in patients four years or older with poor attention, distractibility, hyperactivity, impulsiveness, poor academic performance, or behavioral problems at home or at school.
| Often fails to give close attention to details or makes careless mistakes in schoolwork, at work, or during other activities (e.g., overlooks or misses details, work is inaccurate).
| Parent/caretaker report of symptoms for ADHD and other disorders (e.g., learning, mental health, sleep problems) in the home setting
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More boys have ADHD overall; however, the inattentive subtype is more common in girls
| Often has difficulty sustaining attention in tasks or play activities (e.g., has difficulty remaining focused during lectures, conversations, or lengthy reading).
| School or work performance: progress reports, absenteeism, grade retention, special education services, referrals for behavioral or legal problems
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Although no evidence supports universal screening for ADHD at well visits, physicians should be attentive to patients' and guardians' concerns about academic performance and behavioral problems
| Often has difficulty organizing tasks and activities (e.g., difficulty managing sequential tasks; difficulty keeping materials and belongings in order; messy, disorganized work; has poor time management; fails to meet deadlines)
| School/community report of symptoms outside of the home
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The ADHD Love Song
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