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What Kids Wish Their Parents Knew

Updated on February 18, 2013
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Our Kids Want The Same Things We Wanted

We were all kids once and we had some of the same wants and worries as our kids have now.

As we get older, it may be difficult to accurately remember how it felt when we were young.

Although some people may have had perfect parents, most people have a few things they wish their parents knew then and our kids wish we knew now.

The following are 35 things that all kids wish their parents knew.

I Need My Parents

1. Don’t try to be my friend; I need a parent so much more

2. Don’t make jokes at my expense

3. I need to feel safe

4. Come into my room to see me when you miss me; not just when I’m in trouble

5. Play with me

6. Don’t talk to me about grown up problems or situations I can’t fully understand yet, it just makes me worry

7. It scares me when you drink alcohol

8. Eat dinner with me

9. I desperately need your acceptance

10. When you talk bad about my other parent, you are talking bad about a part of me and it makes me feel like I’m not good enough for you

11. Much like when a baby cries, when I act up or misbehave, it’s because I need something

12. My temperament and maturity rate may be different than yours was, don’t make me feel wrong for not being you.

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Encourage Me

13. Tell me you are proud of me

14. Encourage me to try new things

15. Let me work for things, it makes me feel powerful

16. Don’t say, “I told you so” when I fail, just be there to help me up so I can try again

17. Don’t bail me out when I get in trouble at school or in an argument with my friend, guide me in the right direction so I can solve it myself

18. Give me the emotional freedom to develop my own ideas and values

Teach Me

19. Teach me how to express myself when I am hurt and angry

20. Teach me how to budget money

21. Teach me good manners so I won’t be embarrassed or unfairly judged when I’m in public

22. Teach me how to cook

23. Teach me about sex, respect for my body and others

Show Me

24. Show me you think I am capable of doing things on my own

25. Show me what it’s like to be a part of a healthy adult relationship

26. Show me how to take care of my body and be proud of it

27. Show me how to do household chores

28. Show me all of the good the world has to offer but warn me of the bad

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Talk To Me

29. Tell me something good or funny about your day

30. Tell me about your values and explain why you feel that way

31. Spend time with me so you will know my true feelings and needs. I don’t have the self-awareness or vocabulary to tell you what I am feeling.

32. When you know something is wrong, be patient with me until I can tell you what it is

33. Ask about my day and don’t always accept “fine” as the answer

34. Tell me I am individually special and tell me why

35. Tell me what great and unique qualities I bring to the family

Tell me you love me everyday

Parents Want The Best For Their Kids

Every parent wants their child to grow into a happy, confident and productive adult.

These small but important steps will help give them the tools to be just that.

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      You are so right! It's so easy to get caught up in the hustle of life and forget the important details.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Great list of suggestions of what kids need. It is so important that we pay attention to the needs of our children. Time passes too quickly and soon they are grown.

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      Robie Benve 4 years ago from Ohio

      Great reminders about our children's needs. Sometimes we get too caught into daily activities and problems that we forget time is clicking by fast for our little loves, and they'll be adults soon. As parents we have such an impact on what kind of adults our children will be. Thanks for sharing. :)

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      Thank you callyworden, I'm really love hearing that this list helps others as much as it does me. Your babies are very lucky! :)

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      Cally Worden 4 years ago from Madranges, France

      Great hub, thanks! I just came down from putting my babies to bed (5 and 2) and my eldest has been a little challenging tonight - I love her so much and told her so as I kissed her goodnight, this post was a great leveller to read.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

      What a great hub. Going down your list to "check off" things we do and things we need to improve on. Loved this.

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      Congratulations! You have such an exciting adventure ahead of you. :)

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      Julie 4 years ago

      I recently gave birth to my baby boy and found this hub very informative! I am always looking for information on how to be a great Mom/parent. This was well-written and I enjoyed reading it.

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      Thank you careermommy! It is really easy to get caught up in the day to day craziness of life. Sometimes the obvious get's overlooked. I refer to this list myself all the time. :)

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      I agree with you completely! There are no perfect parents or children but, if we try to do most of these everyday, everyone will be happier. :)

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      Tirralan Watkins 4 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Roxanne459, thank you for sharing this. Our kids are so precious that we should do everything we can to show love and support to them. I loved your examples and it coming from a child's voice made this so much more powerful.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Absolutely perfect examples of what parents need to know about their kids. Neither parents nor kids know all of these things instinctively and even if they do they need to be reminded as you have here. Treat your children with love, respect and an open mind and you'll both be better for it.

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Roxanne Lewis 4 years ago from Washington

      Thank you for your comment and support! :)

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      Nettlemere 4 years ago from Burnley, Lancashire, UK

      This is a really good reminder of the way a child needs their parents to be!