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What Should I Do??? Please HELP!!!
I need some guidance I know I should follow my heart and do what is best for my children, but giving that said. I am a single mother of three kids ages 9, 6, and 4. I am a survivor of mental, verbal, and physical abuse, up until March 17, 2009. For 9 years I sacrificed by soul to keep my family. I learned that it was causing more damage to stay there and be abused then to leave and take my kids to a healthy environment. I took my children and myself from the dysfunction. In doing that there has been a lot of chaos between us both and has caused a lot of grief. I am at a point in my life where I no longer want negative people around me. I have developed a sane mentality and want to continue down this positive path. We share rights to our children through court. He has them every other weekend and Tuesday and Wednesday nights. I have been very lenient with his schedule and changing it at his own convenience. This leaves me with no personal window for myself, which is fine because I am the mother and that’s what mothers do. It has been expressed through a text that he no longer wishes for the children to be in his life due to an argument between him and I over this weekend visitation. This weekend April 9, is his birthday and he asked if he could not have his kids this weekend I agreed to Saturday and Sunday but not Friday April 8, as to my prior engagements. He went crazy saying that he doesn’t need his kids and using major profanity towards me. He also expressed to take his parental rights and so forth. With this said I am tired of dealing with the games. My children are not pawns to be played with on a game of chess. They are little souls who are looking for love from their parents.
My concern is giving my kids no option in seeing their father anymore. He continues to taunt me and I am just tired of the verbal abuse. With this I feel I should proceed forward in revoking his parental rights as he wishes and not deal with him any longer. I have proven fact that he stated this and if I take it too court it will stand. I do not really want to go about this but he is leaving me no other choice. Will I regret this decision and will my children hate me for this decision made on behalf of them? Should I let things cool off, understanding that I am no longer up for threats and taunts I am done dealing with an unstable human being and allowing him to influence our children negatively. Please help any suggestion………..???