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Pregnant with Triplets, what to expect when you're expecting multiples.
The first Reaction!
If you've been trying to get pregnant and looking forward to that plus sign on the little stick, there's nothing that compares to the joy you feel when you actually see it, the emotions and shots of adrenalin going down your spine can only be compared to the first time you fell in love. After the first ultrasound when the doctor tells you to expect twins or more, the emotions compare a little more to a ride on a roller coaster, followed by stress, anxiety and sweaty palms.
It seems like I was placed on bed rest, 3 weeks after finding out I was pregnant with triplets, followed by weekly visits to the doctor. I was larger than life, at 3 months, I looked like I was 5 months pregnant with a single baby. Being on bed rest with nothing to do except get on the internet researching all the things that could wrong, the anxiety was quite overwhelming.
When you're pregnant with twins, if you can make it to 40 weeks a normal gestational period, they allow you to do so, but with triplets, you will be delivered at 36 weeks, if you make it that far. The specialists will spend hours convincing you that you should reduce the pregnancy because it's dangerous and unhealthy for you and the babies, they explained to me that they would insert a needle through my tummy into the heart and stop it. That's about the same time I told them to stop.
I chose to keep what god had blessed me with and not reduce. Nothing in the world can describe the kicking of 6 feet in one tummy. I spent the first 4 months thinking, wondering about the sex of the babies in my tummy, the health and the outcome of the whole pregnancy. I had 3 chances that something could be wrong.
At 28 weeks my water broke and so did my heart, I rushed in to deliver 3 premature babies born 1 minute apart at 2.5 lbs each. The 10 weeks that followed of having premature babies in the Neonatal Infant Care Unit (NICU) were hell on earth, having delivered 3 babies and coming home without one was the most difficult experience in my life.
I was fortunate, although my babies had a rough road ahead of them, they came home one at a time, healthy and smiling. I look at them now and wonder "which one would it have been if I had decided to reduce, and I am so glad I didn't".
It's a lot of work raising multiples but the fun times outshine the stressful times. I now look at my good friends that are pregnant again and feel so blessed for not having to deal with diapers, bottles and teething ever again. Yes, it is more work the first couple of years, but the positives outshine the negatives a thousand times over. If you're pregnant with multiples, keep reminding yourself that you are multiple blessed!
A little poem for my little angels...
I believe the lord above
Created you for me to love
He picked me out from all the rest
Because he knew I'd love you best
If I go to heaven and you're not there
I'll write your name on a golden stair
If you're not there by judgement's day
I'll know you went the other way
To prove my love for you is true
I would go to hell to be with you