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Who Makes A Good Father?
He stretched out his hands to me and my tiny fingers held his.
Suddenly i felt protected and loved— A child
Being A Father
Being a father comes with many great and fun responsibilities that allows you to grow and understand your child or any other child for that matter. As a father, it is very important to form an unbreakable bond with your child. You can not just fertilize a woman's egg and then simply pay child support and call your self a father. A Father is a strong and powerful word and therefore any male that fatherhood has been bestowed upon must act in accordance with what the name means. Too often we have seen where fathers have been missing from children's lives allowing only the ever strong and trying mother to grow up and support the child. A child will need their father and surveys have shown that children with father's directly involved in their children's lives actually experience a better lifestyle, happier and seldom gets involved in trouble with the law. Lets look of some of the things that makes a man a good father.
As we are all aware, no one on this earth can survive without some sort of financial support. It doesn't matter what type or form the support comes in. Whether it be begging, food stamps, inheritance or employment. Every single child needs some sort of financial support and that financial support should first come from the parents once they are in good standings to provide such. A good father will support his child financially in any way he possibly can. This financial support is extremely critical to the child's survival and growth in life.
This is no secret that nutrition is necessary for any human being to be healthy and grow properly. We have seen many times where fathers have even neglected to buy simple foods for their own children.
A good father will ensure that his child is always properly clothed. It doesn't necessarily mean that you will need t provide the newest fashion trends, it simply means that you are the one to ensure that a shirt is always on his/her back.
One of the most important financial support you could ever give your child. There is a saying that says "Education is key". Yes, good education is key to being successful in life. Education can be quite expensive as we all know. But i am sure there are ways and means of giving your child a good sound education so later in life they will be able to naturally survive on their own and live a more fruitful life.
Would you believe that there are children who are in shelters that do have fathers? A father is responsible to ensure that his child has a good roof over his head and is at least comfortable in the environment he/she is gown in.
Fostering a Good Relationship
- Every child sees his dad as a magnificent man, maybe the superhero in his/her life. Many times sons emulate their fathers and will do and act how their father does and act. It is of the utmost importance that a father is not scared to let his emotions be shown towards his children no matter how old they are. Exercise and show love towards your child as this fosters children who perform better in society. When ever the time arrives, let your children know how much you love and appreciate them. Playing with your child always cements a bond from they are little until they grow. They will develop an emotional glue that will always be there between father and child.
- As your child grows, so will their feelings and thoughts and problems. It is always good to try to form a bond with your child so that they can come and speak with you about any problems they are facing, whether it be internal or external issues. Many times if children could speak to their fathers about problems they are facing or have that good father figure in their lives, they may not have gotten into many sticky situations because they would have him to guide their decision making.
Teaching Good Morals
- It is not up to the teacher at the kindergarten school or the motivational speaker on the television to properly grow your child. It takes both parents to influence how the child grows and values instilled while the child grows. It is extremely important for fathers to teach their children good morals especially in a time when having good morals is being kicked to the curb and indiscipline is awarded with fame and fortune. When morals are taught by especially the father, it comes across with more authority than if the mother was to teach or instill them. Even though a father should be fun, loving, does crazy things with his child. He must also maintain that balance between love and discipline.
Did you grow up with a good father?
Being a Role Model
Practice what you preach. Children are mimickers and emulators, especially when they are at a young and tender age. They look and absorb their environment and the people which resides in that environment, both in home, school or neighborhood. They are quite impressionable and the persons who they tend to want to follow mostly are the persons closer to them, friends and family. It is very important in a child's growth how the child sees his father. If he sees you as that wonderful person that loves him, loves his mother and works hard for the family while giving love and fun he will definitely have that character type locked in his subconscious for many years to come. If the father is a constant drunk and a regular jailer, that will certainly leave a bad and tasteless character build for your child. This is so bad that he/she just may end up later in life doing the very same negative things that the father have done. More often, it is actually the sons who emulate their fathers more and many-times walks in their footsteps.
A family will feel much more protected when there is a father at home. One main responsibility of a father is to always ensure that his child is and feels safe. No matter what are the elements, the child will always see his father as someone big and strong that fears nothing. A father has a much more intimidating look than mothers and many times predators will think twice before attempting any sick action when a father is present. Bullying is another major impact as to why children need fathers for protection. It doesn't mean that the father will go punch someone in the face, but i can tell you that a good warning from a father goes a very long way.
Strong Father, Strong Daughter. The cover says it all. A great read for the fathers who are growing wonderful daughters and needs to grow them strong so they have a better will and discipline in life. Have a look now!
Not because you are that wacky father who climbs on the top of the shed with your son and jumps off on a tone of piled leaves doesn't make you immune from disciplining your child. This is one of societies main problem right now. Children are not being disciplined as they ought to and what is the result of this; a society with little or no morals, a society where young teen girls prefer fishnet stockings than a beautiful dress, a young man who bullies the new kid while his friends cheer on and have a laugh about it. Disciplining your child doesn't mean that you will tie them to the post in the Sahara desert, it simply means that when a child does something wrong or say something disrespectful, the father should ensure that such negative actions are not fostered by enabling the necessary punishments. Be careful how you discipline your child though as this too can have negative effects in the child's life. Always speak to your child about a situation before applying punishment. Punishment should be only applied if the offense is repeated, not on the first go.
Being a Good father is really not difficult at all. All the things that i have mentioned within this article should be mandatory as soon as you realize that you are on your way to fatherhood. There are many sacrifices that sometimes needs to be made by fathers for the sake of your child. Do it and do it smiling knowing that the sacrifice being made is for a beautiful son or daughter that you love dearly. Just like how mothers are important and needed in a child's life, a good father is even much more important and well needed. So kudos to all the wonderful fathers who have shown nothing short of valiance, love, support and the many sacrifices they have made in order for their child to have a good life.