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I support Caning Children - Cane A Child -
Watching too much Oprah and related talk shows has made us to believe that if we spank our children they will turn into social deviants. To me, it is the other way round; it is not uncommon to hear a mother crying that her daughter is abusing her. We want to treat our children the way we treat our pets – or is it the other way round? It has made us tolerate a lot of nonsense that we would not have tolerated from our children a few decades back.
And I am not talking about physical abuse or something like that where you hit your child with a brick; no. I’m talking about the good old caning or as the Brits would say, “Strokes of the cane.”
Of course, there are many experts who tell us that “research shows” that this does not really help children improve. However, like any other researches that are done by special interest groups, the research is skewed to achieve exactly what they want it to achieve. They have come up with alternative forms of punishment like looking at the child in the eye and telling him to stop. Or denying the child the TV for a couple of days. But come on! For how long can you do such things? Isn’t this the reason why many of us do not want to have big families anymore?
I know a friend of mine whose family size is 16 – excluding the father and the mother. How do you think the parents would have survived if at all his parents would be bent on telling their children: stop!?
The mum would probably have suffered a nervous breakdown before her first born turned 13.
If my dad would have done that to me, I would have laughed all the way to jail.
Keep It Up Teacher
Of Teachers Hitting on Tiny Girls
Teachers have a responsibility to the children they teach; and they have an obligation to carry themselves with dignity. But unless he gets into hitting at the girls he is teaching – like some teachers I know - or destroying the children he is supposed to build, the teacher is always right. Well, I know everyone knows that that is hogwash; just the way you know that your boss is talking gibberish when he reminds you that the customer is always right.
The reason why teachers should always be respected and feared by children and not the other way round, is for the good of the child, just like knowing that customer is king is good for business.
As a high school student, there was a time when i performed so poorly in exams – due to my own mischief – that I ended up being among the worst , coming out at position 170 out of 174. In the assembly of close to 800 boys, The school principal told the bottom- ten students to stand up. He looked at my friend and I and said, “Look at those two people, they look like sheep. I am very uncomfortable with them in this school.” Of course I was frightened, but I never went down. I knew that I couldn’t go around fighting with my teacher over an ego trip and expect to win. Now with hindsight, I understand that there was no other way the schoolmaster could have controlled an all-boys boarding school with a population of 800 without using some rough language.
I also remember than when I was 10 the home-science teacher asked the class to state the difference between a scald and a burn and nobody in the class except I, knew the difference. I was given a stick and I was told to give each of the 35 boys and girls two strokes of the cane. This was done under the supervision of the teacher. Nobody went to tell his or her parent and nobody complained – coz they knew that the teacher was always right. The only downside to this story is that I was forced to beat a girl that I had a crush on.
As I mentioned earlier, I am not for beating kids every time they do something wrong. There are some mistakes that are simply not worth caning a child for. But there are times when caning children is the quick way to fix a child’s deviant behavior.
When it comes to stubbornness, rebellion, and disobedience , give me the whip and I will wipe the bay’s butt. Do it for me too.