Why I Feel Sorry for Fathers
Good Mothers are Great!
"Being a mother is the hardest job in the world" There is nothing like a mother's love" "mothers are heroes" These are just a few of the slogans I encounter on a daily basis from people I know on social media who have children, and it's not just social media, the media in general does the same thing, puts mothers way up on the shining pedestal of all that is good and right, whilst forgetting that Father's even exist!
Don't get me wrong, being a mother must be great, and being a good mother can't be easy, I don't for one second think it is. But at least as a mother, you get recognition, appreciation and respect from society in general, you might not get it from your own family, but society as a whole appreciates mothers.
The Forgotten Father
Fathers on the other hand, seem to be the forgotten parent, again, maybe not in your family, but in wider society, being a father doesn't garner the same respect and admiration as being a mother. And I am talking about good fathers, as I am talking about good mothers.
Dads Don't Babysit!
When Fathers look after their own children, people call it "babysitting" why is that? Is he getting paid ten pounds and gets to help himself to what's in the fridge? No, he's not babysitting, he's parenting! They are his kids, and I will let you in on a little secret, he might like spending time with his children and he might not be taking them out so mummy can have a rest and some time to herself! He might just be taking his kids out because he adores them and wants to be near them as much as possible!
Please Don't Forget Them
And it starts early, a few years ago, a friend of mine was pregnant with her 4th child, but sadly, they never got to meet her. My friend was heartbroken, and had the support of everyone, but she pointed out to me "nobody has asked Matt how he feels, he lost a baby too" And since then I have noticed that so much, yes, of course the mother needs to be looked after, but so does the father, they're grieving too.
It's a Thankless Task, so Thank Them!
Being a Dad in 2017 seems to be a pretty thankless task, and I am not saying we should ignore mothers, just include fathers.