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Why I Love my Mum!
My mom, my hero
MY MOM HAS TAUGHT ME WELL!
Whatever I am today, whatever I have achieved...I owe to my mom. She has taught me well.
My mom was not the typical mom who would wake up very early in the morning to prepare breakfast for us. Nor is she the type who will cook merienda for us while we are still in school, so that by the time we get home, there would be a hot cup of chocolate and pancakes waiting for our much-deserved snacks.
No. Mama was more than that. She was the working-mom-kind-of-mother ( accountant by profession) who works 8 hours a day, then comes home and faces the household chores. But she's cool. After dinner, she would always catch her favorite TV programs/series ( and I was almost, always with her when she watches. As a young girl, I was watching TV series meant for adults. Name it, Ive watched it. Dallas, Knots Landing, Hotel, Knightrider, A-Team, Mannix, Streets of San Francisco, Equalizer, Colombo, Vegas, Hart to Hart, Murder she wrote and the list goes on and on and on.
Mama is very intelligent. I admire her for what she knows and for being so cool about it. Ask her any question and she is always beaming with the right answer. (I wonder how she did that). She often challenges my values, my convictions - making sure that I keep the right values close to my heart always, and get rid of the things that destroy both the body, mind and spirit.
I remember watching her tutor my older brother ( the type who would never give up until he fully understands the prose and poetry to be discussed the next day. He wanted to understand every line, every detail so that he can score high in recitation. Well, guess what? He graduated with FIVE HONORS in high school, and has become a consistent scholar in college. Is now a CPA working in a finance institution in Canada.) I know deep in my heart that without mom's dedication and knowledge, he wouldnt have succeeded that much. ( I regret not having spent the same quality time with her).
When I started to grow up and became conscious of my physical "form,"my mom would always highlight what she thinks is good about me. I mean, she would always comment on how good I carry myself and the way I quickly warm up with people.
She has always been fair with me, likewise, telling me what and where to improve on. Always pushing me to read so I would improve on my vocabulary.
I remember telling her about the guys I meet and the guys that interests me? I will never get a "spanking" for that. As a matter of fact, she appreciates my honestly and openness and would always remind me to stay on the safe and clean side. She was diplomatic enough to push back on things that might lead to wrong decisions and makes me understand when she wants to drive home a point.
She will not say "NO" right to your face when asked about her opinion on a certain guy, but she will always tell you to think about things first, and not be swayed by emotions alone. The mind has always to take a big part of every decision that I make, and up to now, I still value and follow this advise.
The wisdom that my mom shared with me is simply priceless. These are the very things that I, in turn, share with my daughters...specially now that they are quickly growing up and are about to be independent.
Whether I am in the corporate jungle or simply at home, whether in the church counselling or having coffe with my friends, everything that my mom has taught me is still fresh inside of me.
The people that I talk to would sometimes ask me where I get such wisdom. With pride and much sweet remembrance, I tell them its coming right from the heart of my earthly mentor and hero, none other than my mom.
I know its also a pool of learnings gathered from past experiences, but without a mother guiding you as you go through life, my paths would have been different. I will not deny it, there were times when I'd listen to my mom and do the exact opposite. I tell you, I have learned my lessons ever since.
I remember sitting beside her on a light day, and tell her my life stories ( how things are and how things went) and sometimes I would expect a little spanking here and there, ( the usual " thats-what-you-deserve-kind-of-sermon" moms are so used to )But guess what I would hear? To quote my mom, she said, "well, sometimes people learn the hard way!" ( now, isn't that so heart warming?)
Even at the point where she was old and getting weaker physically, she was still full of wisdom. I have always enjoyed talking with her because there were always new things and revelations that I will learn from her. Learning never stops when I am with mom. She was the best, if not the bestest.
So, why do I love my mom?
1. She was God's gift to me. From her, I learned everything that I needed to survive in this challenging world.
2. She taught me the real meaning of love (outside of emotions and beyond words) forgiveness, patience and grace.
3. She was a mother who took care of all our needs.
4. She was a friend who took time to listen whether I had a happy or sad story to tell.
5. She was my teacher, my mentor and my one & only coach : teaching me what really matters in this world.
I can only thank God for my mom because without her, I would not have been brought out into this world and enjoy the life I now enjoy.
I am grateful for every minute that I have spent with her when she was still alive. I realized that while she watched me play and grow, her BEST YEARS SLIPPED AWAY. It was out of pure love and selflessness and sacrifice. I love you mama. You are the best. You will always be.