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Are You A Mean Mom? I Am!

Updated on February 15, 2014

I'm the Meanest Mom In the World!

That's my response each time I hear the words "You're mean!" come from my five year old son.

Senario #1: Driving in the car past "certain" fast food restaurants that I don't go to, and he says, "Mommy, I'm hungry." (Even though he just finished a snack bag of goodies in the car). I say, "We're almost home, we can get something to eat then." (Enter loud scream here) Then, "You're mean!" he says. I say, "I know! I'm the Meanest Mom in the World!"

Senario #2: It is almost bedtime and they want just "Five more minutes" of cartoons. I say, "No, because you have school tomorrow and you don't want to feel tired." (Enter a whine here) Then, "You're mean!" he says. I say, "I know! I'm the Meanest Mom in the World!"

Are you a Mean Mom?

Do you put your child's health, safety, and well being at the top of your list? Do you set limits? Do you offer consequences for breaking rules? Do you diligently watch what each morsel of food is that enters their bodies? Do you spend hours of your day in a state of worry and anxiety over your child's future and do all in your power to control what you can right now?

If you've answered YES to one or more of the above questions, then you're officially classified as a Mean Mom.

Welcome to the club!

Here is why I'm a Mean Mom

I am a Mean Mom for the following reasons:

  • I fix my children breakfast that includes fruit and whole grains; sometimes good proteins too; do they have Sugar Cereal for breakfast? Nope.
  • I opt to go through their CANDY bags after a Halloween/Easter/Valentine event and discard the Fun Dips, Hugs "drinks", and other artificially flavored/colored crap. Chocolate can stay.
  • I have my children follow a routine that includes eating meals together, reading together, playing actively, and going to bed before 8:30 at night. Falling asleep "when they feel like it" is not an option.
  • I choose to ban cheap hotdogs in my household and will splurge on the $4 package during cookout season so my children will have that "childhood experience" that I had (minus the nitrites).
  • I believe that setting limits are a parents job.
  • I believe that choices for children are okay for small things, but NOT when it comes to their health and safety.

I am a Mean Mom because:

  • I don't buy them toys each time we leave the house.
  • We only occasionally eat at a restaurant, and the Golden Arches is NOT one of them.
  • Having a Dum Dums sucker is okay when we visit the bank, but it is NOT okay to give them to my child EVERY DAY AFTER SCHOOL as a REWARD for making it through the day (I'm not making this up.....that teacher was just not right).
  • I don't give in to my child's screaming when he wants Scooby Doo Fruit Snacks.
  • I do not allow my child to ride alone in the Rhino with his 11 year old uncle.
  • Helmet wearing while riding a bicycle is mandatory and I don't care if the "other" kids are not wearing one.


I'm a GOOD mom because......

  • I feed them good and nutritious foods.
  • I read to them
  • We complete puzzles together, and solve "life's puzzles" too!
  • I make sure they have a warm bed to sleep on with plenty of stuffed animals (from my childhood)
  • I give them several hugs each day
  • They hear "I love you" more than once as well
  • I hold them when they are sick
  • I rub their backs when they are tired
  • They will grow up to be emotionally and physically healthy


I am a Mean Mom, but a Good Mean Mom :)


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    • Cantuhearmescream profile image

      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      Well ya know what I have to say 'bout that? The world needs more MEAN MOMS! You are exactly the kind of mom that I wish all moms would be. Good for you and don't be afraid to embrace it (which I'm pretty sure I've realized you aren't afraid! :-)

      It's funny, I think my kids have recently grown out of the "your mean" phase but after hearing it for enough years you learn to start your sentences with "I'm not trying to be mean but...." Ha ha ha, I didn't even realize that I say that at least five times a day until I read this. I think it has become a defense mechanism. "I'm not trying to be mean, but no you can't have...", "I'm not trying to be mean but no you can't stay up". I guess if you start the sentence with that statement then they know something "nice" isn't going to follow, they're better prepared for the disappointment and lastly, there is no point in them following your statement with "you're mean" because you've already addressed that issue. Oh this was just super! Loved it!

      Voted up and Awesome!

      Cat

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Hi Cat, We have my husband's 11 year old for a few days every two weeks and I have found myself saying the same thing......"I'm not being mean......but......" Sometimes though (like yesterday for example), it was just a flat out, "Nope, sorry. Deal with it." Oh well! I guess it goes in line with our own moods too!

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      Cat 4 years ago from New York

      vandynegl,

      Ha ha, so true. Sometimes just the scoul look on my face is all my kids need, no words necessary!

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      moonlake 4 years ago from America

      When they become grown-ups you just remember that you were a good Mom no what they say because believe me they will say things you won't like. Our oldest tells all his friends how mean I was because I wouldn't let him jump in the river onto rocks and because he was grounded if he was five minutes late. You are doing the right things. I also believed in a bedtime routine. When our daughter had her children she ask me how I got them into a bedtime routine and I told her you start them out on a routine when they come home from hospital and stick with it. She did that and her kids also stayed on a good routine. Enjoyed your hub voted up and shared.

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Hi moonlake! Thank you for your response! I'm glad to know that my actions now will be beneficial in the long run! I like that you taught your daughter to stick to a routine when her babies were newborns. That's when I started mine and they both have great sleeping habits. Again, I appreciate your response and for sharing!

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      Rfordin 4 years ago from Florida

      That is me. A mean good mom. Cute article and oh so true.

      ~Becky

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Thank you Rfordin! It is great to hear those words "you're mean!" cause then you know you're doing something right? Thanks for reading!

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      Jennifer 4 years ago from New Jersey

      I love the Scooby Doo fruit snacks line! As well as the rest....I banned food dyes (among other things) and I hear "you are mean!" all the time! I am voting this up and sharing. And as a teacher as well, I appreciate all of you/us mean moms!

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      vandynegl 4 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Hi Theater girl! Thank YOU!! It is good to know that I'm not the only one who has issues with food dyes. People think I'm nuts, but I know I'm not! It's terrible how those darn fruit snacks target our kids! I get so fumed! Thanks for reading and sharing!

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      Mary Hyatt 2 years ago from Florida

      My four girls are all grown now, but they still tell their friends what a mean mom I was! Yes, I was a mean mom, and I make no apologies for that. My own mother was a mean mom, too; bless her departed heart!!

      Voted up, etc.

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      vandynegl 2 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Hi mary615,

      I think the best moms are the mean ones! I used to teach a preschool class where one of the moms was WAY TOO NICE to her little boy. One day, when he was getting on the bus, he flipped us the bird (in front of his mom), and she didn't do a thing! Oh my!

      But yes, I don't make apologies either! I'm sure your four girls will raise their own children well too!!

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