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Are You A Mean Mom? I Am!
I'm the Meanest Mom In the World!
That's my response each time I hear the words "You're mean!" come from my five year old son.
Senario #1: Driving in the car past "certain" fast food restaurants that I don't go to, and he says, "Mommy, I'm hungry." (Even though he just finished a snack bag of goodies in the car). I say, "We're almost home, we can get something to eat then." (Enter loud scream here) Then, "You're mean!" he says. I say, "I know! I'm the Meanest Mom in the World!"
Senario #2: It is almost bedtime and they want just "Five more minutes" of cartoons. I say, "No, because you have school tomorrow and you don't want to feel tired." (Enter a whine here) Then, "You're mean!" he says. I say, "I know! I'm the Meanest Mom in the World!"
Are you a Mean Mom?
Do you put your child's health, safety, and well being at the top of your list? Do you set limits? Do you offer consequences for breaking rules? Do you diligently watch what each morsel of food is that enters their bodies? Do you spend hours of your day in a state of worry and anxiety over your child's future and do all in your power to control what you can right now?
If you've answered YES to one or more of the above questions, then you're officially classified as a Mean Mom.
Welcome to the club!
Here is why I'm a Mean Mom
I am a Mean Mom for the following reasons:
- I fix my children breakfast that includes fruit and whole grains; sometimes good proteins too; do they have Sugar Cereal for breakfast? Nope.
- I opt to go through their CANDY bags after a Halloween/Easter/Valentine event and discard the Fun Dips, Hugs "drinks", and other artificially flavored/colored crap. Chocolate can stay.
- I have my children follow a routine that includes eating meals together, reading together, playing actively, and going to bed before 8:30 at night. Falling asleep "when they feel like it" is not an option.
- I choose to ban cheap hotdogs in my household and will splurge on the $4 package during cookout season so my children will have that "childhood experience" that I had (minus the nitrites).
- I believe that setting limits are a parents job.
- I believe that choices for children are okay for small things, but NOT when it comes to their health and safety.
I am a Mean Mom because:
- I don't buy them toys each time we leave the house.
- We only occasionally eat at a restaurant, and the Golden Arches is NOT one of them.
- Having a Dum Dums sucker is okay when we visit the bank, but it is NOT okay to give them to my child EVERY DAY AFTER SCHOOL as a REWARD for making it through the day (I'm not making this up.....that teacher was just not right).
- I don't give in to my child's screaming when he wants Scooby Doo Fruit Snacks.
- I do not allow my child to ride alone in the Rhino with his 11 year old uncle.
- Helmet wearing while riding a bicycle is mandatory and I don't care if the "other" kids are not wearing one.
I'm a GOOD mom because......
- I feed them good and nutritious foods.
- I read to them
- We complete puzzles together, and solve "life's puzzles" too!
- I make sure they have a warm bed to sleep on with plenty of stuffed animals (from my childhood)
- I give them several hugs each day
- They hear "I love you" more than once as well
- I hold them when they are sick
- I rub their backs when they are tired
- They will grow up to be emotionally and physically healthy