Why It Is Okay To Admit That You Are Formula Feeding Your Baby!!!
Is Breast Really The Almighty Source?
I will be the first to admit that when I had foreseen me having children I was going to be "BREAST" one hundred percent. I was a strong believer that nothing in this world could compare to the natural source of breast milk.
I mean we have all been told as mother's to be that "breast is the best." When it was finally time for me to give birth to my first child I thought that I had it all planned out and that breast would be all that my child would be getting till a minimum of six months. As mothers this is all that we are told before having children. We are often told that if we do not give out children breast milk that we are a failure as a mother. We are also told that we (if we do not breast feed), obviously, do not have our children's best interest's at heart.
Well guess what I am here to tell you all they are ALL wrong.
Why Did I End Up Using Formula
I will be the first to admit that when I was pregnant with my first child, Bruce, I bought into everything that most people we're telling me. I was hearing from multiple sources that if I did not exclusively breast feed my child for the first six months till year of life that I would be a sub par parent. I was often told that if I did not follow these guidelines that my child would not be the best baby that he could be. That; from the original get go, is what made me 100% believe that all children should be breast fed for the first year of life. Well guess what everyone I take that back. Through my own personal experiences I have come to the conclusion that this isn't always the correct thing to assume.
When I was in the hospital I did breast feed my child. It was a great experience, I survived the initial cluster feeding stage that he went through. I was very proud of myself for being able to give my child the start I wanted to give him. However, when I got home things changed and I was forced to start giving my child formula.
When we got back from the hospital I fell ill and spent a majority of the time in the bathroom throwing up or I was stricken by the feeling that I was going to throw up. This caused me to be unable to feed my child as often as he needed and it eventually affected my breast milk supply. I was pumping frequently and breast feeding him all that I physically could before I would be ill again and have to grow throw up. Due to this I had to start supplementing formula for a few feeds because there just wasn't enough breast milk available for him. Soon after that my supply lessened and lessened and I had to turn to formula 100%.
When I first introduced Bruce to formula I felt like I was a failure as a mother. I mean how could one fail at something so natural. It made me very sad at the beginning because all you hear and read is that "Breast is the best." You never hear or read someone else's story of how they failed or how they were proud of their decision for choosing formula over breast. I think that this is the reason that I felt even worse because I could not find any support as to what I was going through. That is why I decided to write this article that you may stumble upon and I want to be the first to tell you it is alright.
I know a few people will stumble upon this article and think I am the worse mother in the world for not sticking to the breast but I had to choose what was best for me and my child.
Wonderful Reasons People Have Decided To Formula Feed For
There are many reasons a person may decide to introduce formula to their child. However, these are the only "GOOD" reasons people have decided this option for their baby.
- THEY FAILED AT BREAST FEEDING: Yes this does happen and it happens a lot more then people are willing to admit. People are told that breast feeding is the most natural thing in the world to do. However, what happens when you try breast feeding and for some reason it just does not work for you. Yes, sometimes the baby won't latch properly and therefore is not able to get the food he or she needs. Sometimes you discover that breast feeding is a lot more work then you thought it would be. Failing at breast feeding is a great reason to start you're child on formula because guess what everyone...YOUR BABY IS STILL GETTING ALL THE NUTRIENTS HE OR SHE NEEDS TO GROW AND THRIVE OFF OF!!!
- A WOMAN'S BODY HAS FAILED THEM: Yes this also happens and also happens a lot more then people are willing to admit. A woman's body can fail them and not produce enough milk for their baby. This causes the woman to have to start supplemental feeds with formula. In the end the supplemental feeds end up affecting her supply more and she is forced to give more supplemental feeds until her supply has all but disappeared. If this is your case DO NOT let someone make you feel like you have failed as a mother! You have not failed as a mother and are doing the best thing that is for your baby because the baby needs to be fed regardless...also guess what....YOUR BABY IS STILL GETTING ALL THE NUTRIENTS HE OR SHE NEEDS TO GROW AND THRIVE OFF OF!
- THERE IS A HEALTH ISSUE: Yes this also happens. Sometimes a baby is born prematurely and has to go to the NICU where they are given formula. Or, sometimes there is a health issue regarding the mother which causes her to be unable to feed her child from the breast. When looking for support and other people going through what I went through...this seems to be the only "ACCEPTABLE" reason to give your child formula...and guess what...YOUR BABY IS STILL GETTING ALL THE NUTRIENTS HE OR SHE NEEDS TO GROW AND THRIVE OFF OF!
- YOU SIMPLY DECIDED TO GIVE YOUR BABY FORMULA FOR THE GET GO: I'm going to let you all in on a little secret when it comes to this one. A lot of women do decide to go this route when it comes to feeding their child. However, you will not be able to find many people admitting this because they have been shamed into feeling that they are a terrible parent for making that choice for their baby. I'm here to tell you that if this is you, your reason is just as good as any of the above mentioned reasons. You are not a terrible person. You are still a loving mother who is doing the best that she can do for her child. And guess what everyone, even the die hard breast feeding mother's who I know will stumble upon this...YOUR BABY IS STILL GETTING ALL THE NUTRIENTS THAT HE OR SHE NEEDS TO GROW AND THRIVE OFF OF!
Formula Feeding Is Not Bad!
Enfamil, Similac, Organic, Store Brand... Are All Great Choices To Feed Your Baby!
If you have decided to formula feed your baby then you are probably wondering which formula you should feed your child. I will be the first to tell you that every baby may prefer a different brand or kind. Personally, I chose to use Enfamil brand products when it came to feeding my child.
When I first started Bruce on formula I used Enfamil Newborn. He thrived off of it and put on the weight he was supposed to as a newborn. Enfamil Newborn is pretty much the closest thing to early breast milk. (Obviously not exactly like early breast milk) However, this is also somewhat due to the fact that everyone's breast milk is made up a little differently. Due to this it is only for usage in the newborn stage, meaning 0-3 months. After this time it is time to change the formula.
Once Bruce got out of the newborn stage I tried several different kinds of formula. I first tried Enfamil Infant (the yellow container). This is their closest thing to breast milk that they offer. It has all the nutrients that your baby needs to continue on his or her way. Helping them be a happy, healthy, growing baby. Bruce was okay using this formula but it appeared that he did not like it as much as the Enfamil Newborn so I decided to try another kind to see if there was something more suited to his taste.
After trying the infant I decided to Enfamil Gentlease. This formula is more designed for the baby that is gassy. Now do not let someone tell you that your baby is gassy due to the fact that you formula feed your baby. This is not true, breast fed babies are gassy also. It's just the way their little bodies process things. Plus babies have no impulse control so they pass gas whenever and where ever they want. This formula has worked great for some babies. However, Bruce hated this kind and man do I mean hated it. He wouldn't even drink any of it. I believe he didn't like the taste of it, which is alright if it happens to you, it just means you need to try another kind.
Finally, we tried Enfamil A.R. this formula Bruce absolutely loves. Enfamil A.R. is typically used for babies to help reduce spit up. The reason that the spit up ends up reduced is because the formula is a little thicker then regular formula. This is done by rice starch being added to the formula. It's basically like giving a serving of baby rice cereal which is usually prescribed for babies that spit up frequently. Once again not just formula fed babies spit up. Yes, breast fed babies spit up also. Typically, their doctors will instruct breast feeding mothers to mix pumped breast milk with a little rice cereal to help keep the baby from spitting up frequently. A word of warning to some mothers with babies who have sensitive tummies this formula might not be the best for your little one. If your baby has an extremely sensitive system then this formula MAY (key word is may) cause constipation. Once we discovered that this formula was the best for our child we stopped the hunt for the perfect formula.
There are many more other brands of formula on the market. From Similac to organic formula to generic brands of formula. I just recommend that you keep trying a different kind until you see what is best for your child.
Feeding Your Baby
What was the method you used to feed your baby?
If You Still Are Feeling Bad About Your Choice To Use Formula Let Me Bring A Smile To Your Face!!
There have been a few studies done recently that have shown that formula fed babies smile more and are less fussy then their breast fed counter parts.
I'm not here to bash breast feeding. I'm just here to say that we need to stop SHAMING mother's who have chosen to formula there baby.
We all are mother's just doing the best we can for our children.
Nothing Is Better Then A Happy Baby!
Mothers Vs. Mothers
It appears that now a days it seems like there is a war between mothers going on. Everyone thinks and believes that there way is the only correct and proper way. We as mothers need to stop doing this to each other we need to stop thinking that we know what's best for everybody else's children. Because I'm going to be 100% honest here we don't.
We know what is best for OUR child. The way we raise our own child is up to us. The way we feed our children is up to us.
We are all here with one goal in mind and that is to do what is best for our own children.
We need to stop fighting each other and start supporting each other no matter what opposing parenting techniques we have.
There's one thing that bonds all of us and that is the LOVE we have our children and that we are all parents just trying to get by.
The Mother 'Hood
Be The Best Mother You Can Be! Even With Formula!
This article in no way was about shaming breast feeding mothers. I think you are wonderful people also! I think you are a great person doing the best to take care of your child!
With the end of this article approaching I want to go back to the start... To show support for all the formula feeding mother's out there.
I want to take this time to tell you that you as a mother are doing great!
I want to tell you that you have made a wonderful decision for your child!
I want to be the support that is far to difficult to find at this time!
I look forward to hearing from all of you! Feel free to leave comments below and I will get back to you as soon as possible!