Mommy Dearest could it be you?
Jailmate or Jailbate
Mommy Murdering Mania
There seems to be a rise of mommy murders in the past ten years or so. Mommy dearest is not just a character from a movie anymore. She is real; she could be your Mommy or the mother next door. I am so surprised honestly by this trend. There was a mother on Dr. Phil the other day that had left her two sons at a gas station.
She was arrested, but proclaimed that she had no memory of that incident. She was given a lie detector test and failed every question. Dr. Phil, read my mind when he said, "You seem to be devoid of emotion." That was an understatement. She had not one tear that I saw about I left my boys and I'm distraught. Her main concern was what’s wrong with me, fix me please.
I found that strange that she claimed to love her kids and all her emotions were wrapped in a nice neat bundle for herself only. Then there were the mom's in the Atlanta news who left their toddler aged children at home alone came back hours later to find the police. There are endless recent articles on mothers committing suicide and taking out their children as well. I thought to myself, if you are bad enough or sad enough to take your own life, why do the children have to go, too. Is that saying they should cease to exist without you?
Then, I thought does this have anything to do with selfishness or misery? Misery because you have to be pretty miserable or crippled with pain to kill yourself or to turn to your babies and kill them or leave them with no way to care for themselves. The image of Susan Smith comes to mind seeing that little hand pressed again the glass, possibly hearing the screams, "Mommy!" As her two babies car seat strapped down sink to the bottom of the pond.
Oppressed or Oppressor
- Moms killing their children more common than you think | Mom Houston | a Chron.com blog
Moms killing their children more common than you think
Mommy Fearest or Mommy Dearest
The Great Divide
Are we to blame for MMM?
Are we to blame as a society for Mommy Murdering Mania? Have the leave it to beaver, stepford wives, all around Mommy Hero, led to unrealistic expectations as it comes to being a modern day Mom. If a woman works she is still expected to perform household duties in taking with her social role expectation. As a result of some women feeling as if they have failed miserably, some have taken this route. Some have felt like failures because they do not measure up, honestly while I sympathize with their dilemma that is not excuse for murdering your babies. These women should be liberated from a society that has totally disregarded them not only at home, but in the workplace.
They are struggling with being everything to everyone, but when can they just be? Women have struggled for many years with this issue. There have been debates on home mom vs. working mom. There is guilt and regret to go around; the working mom doesn't spend enough time with her kids, absent mom. The stay at home mom is a slave to her husband and children and has no life outside of the home. I think an excellent illustration was the journey of Bree Vandercamp from Desperate Housewives.
She went from the textbook stepford wife and grew into the independent, liberated, yet loyal businesswoman. Each case is however different, which each woman. If we as a society make a conscience effort to put less stress on women to be perfect and put more effort into celebrating with them being who they are and embracing a balance that works for their unique situation. This could be a good effort at putting an end to MMM or at least slow it down (I'm realistic.) Mental illness is real and real thing and is very prevalent in this culture, so let put more effort into a communal solution and less effort into fueling the fire, myself included! ;) If you think you are going to be a danger to your babies take them to a safe place and get yourself some help, please!