- Family and Parenting
Why don't people compliment?
Hell, I don't know, you would think
...that family members would compliment more than others....NOT !
Being an artist I suppose has something to do with my thin skin; where I expect more of a response from a piece that I worked hard on, than what I got. Or should I care all that much, and just keep on creating? And keep 'selling it' as the biggest compliment. I can't help thinking of van Gogh and what the lack of compliments, as well as his lack of sales, did to him. No, I haven't cut off my ear or even thought about it, but he is definitely at the far end of the spectrum of what could happen to a talented person that is left un-praised for too long. If he only knew what his pieces were cashing in at these days.
Or did my 'Dale Carnegie' course hurt me more than help me? 'Treating others as I would want to be treated' and 'showing a genuine interest in others' seems not to mix very well. I've hardely ever gotten back what I put forth. Treating others nice has mostly gotten people that have treated me nasty in return. Showing a genuine interest in others has gotten me people that just want more and more of my interest, then squeal, or divorce me, when I back off.
It could all boil down to the way one was raised. A person that was hardly ever complimented doesn't know how to compliment, or how to take a compliment in return.
Let me share what happened recently to give you an idea. I've just completed a video titled 'Easter Bunny Chainsaw carving'
Although I've gotten 65 hits in less than two days, nobody has written me, or left a comment saying that I did a super job, and that includes family members. What I have gotten is 'Happy Easter to you 2' instead. Although I have gotten a bunch of 'prospects' from non-family members - that is it. Do these family members feel that it's stooping low to compliment too much? Are they somehow thinking they don't want to compliment for fear they are hurting their own talent? Are they ashamed of their own lack of talent? Do they wish their kids were more talented like this kid in their family? Do they think I'm too talented for my own good, and don't want to rub it in? Am I smelling jealously here? Got me on this one. It's been happening all my life. The only place I've gotten great comments, but few compliments, is here on hub pages. So thus I leave this with you dear 91 followers. Shed some light on me people, or I'm going to cut off my .....