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Why you should sometimes listen to your parents

Updated on January 11, 2020
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Parenting, listen to your parents, embrace your life with them and enjoy it

My Parents

It isn't easy to parent your children, luckily I don't have children in my current situation right now, but I think that I will be a parent soon too.

Anyways, I decided to write about this topic, because I was just talking to my mom and my voice got louder towards her, because she wasn't listening to me and had another opinion about a topic, which mostly concerned only me. I raised my voice and after I got off the phone with her, I felt really bad and immediatly apoligized to her, even though my mom didn't even think that an apology was needed. Just the thought of my mom being sad because of me, gives me a really bad feeling, which I don't want to experience.

A lot of people have/had issues with their parents and some people don't even have contact with them anymore, which of course can happen, if they screw up really badly, but it is different in my case. I also had some issues in the past with them, still have some things, which I don't agree with, but after I got older and older, I realised that a lot of things they've told me, were actually true or really helpful and I should have listened to them. They gave me a lot of advice, even in my early to mid 20's, which was really good and I am really happy to have such nice parents. Also, Turkish familys are usually really close with each other and I talk/see my parents weekly and share everything in my life with them.

Since I am very close with my mom, it hurt me when I raised my voice and I shouldn't have done it. My parents unfortunately are not going to live forever and all the things they have done for me, I won't be able to pay them back in any possible way. So I don't want to make them feel sad, every situation that I have with them, I just want to make them happy, smile or laugh.

Sometimes I get mad or sad, when I hear people talking badly about their parents. Of course I don't really know what happend between them, but even some of my friends, who have a normal relationship with their parents, are talking so much garbage. Whenever they talk like this, I just think about me talking like that about my parents, and just see them sad in my head, which destroys my well being.

Even though my family wasn't rich at all, my parents gave me everything they could, gave me the best time of my life and I'll repay them in any way possible. That is the least I can do.

Parenting - You should listen sometimes!

Whenever your parents tell you certain things like ' go clean your room', ' do your homework', ' go to bed early' or ' come back home at a certain time', it is not because they want to control you, but because they want to give you discipline and care about you. Cleaning your room on a weekly basis, going to bed at a certain time or doing some work at home are all things, which will occur to you later in life. You have to get used to them anyway, so it is better to start early. Some kids see it as their parents wanting to rule over them, but that is not the case. Also getting back home at a certain time, that's not because they don't want you to have fun, but because they worry about you. The world sometimes can be a dangerous place and not knowing what is happening to someone you love, is a really bad feeling.

I remember when I was young, my mom sent to me to many doctors and therapies, because I have a lot of allergies and back then, I always used to get angry. I had to go to a doctor once every week for 5 hours for 2 years straight. She always told me that it is going to be worth it, whenever I am older and I didn't care back then. But now, I am more than thankful, because now I feel great and barely have any allergies anymore.

Just listen to them sometimes, sometimes their advice is bad, but most of the things they say, are or will be useful to you.

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      dashingscorpio 

      15 months ago from Chicago

      I grew up in an era where not listening to one's parents was not an option unless you enjoyed having your ass whipped.

      For as long as you lived under (their roof) what they said was the law of the land. You didn't raise your voice, slam doors, roll your eyes, or go stomping up the stairs.

      You either obeyed or you were punished.

      Your parents were not there to be your "friends".

      Not only was it this way in the household but at school as well. Teachers, coaches, and principals were empowered to give students swats/paddling for disrupting classes or bad behaviors.

      Odds are if your parents learned about it you got punished again!

      There are those who are pro and against corporal punishment.

      However I must admit those of us who grew up in that era went on to be far more independent than what you see of a lot of young people today. Imagining myself living with my mother into my 20s would have been a nightmare in my opinion.

      I couldn't wait to be grown!

      In those days being an "adult" wasn't about reaching a certain age. You had to be "self-reliant" and financially independent of your parents in order to be considered an adult in their eyes.

      As long as you held your hand out for money or counted on them to give you advice before making every decision you were still a child.

      I never disrespected my mother by yelling at her. If she offered me unsolicited advice I listened and did what I wanted as an adult.

      Life is a (personal) journey!

      Ultimately we are all responsible for our own happiness.

      If something doesn't feel right to you it's probably not right for you.

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      Liz Westwood 

      15 months ago from UK

      This could also be applied to others who are older, more mature and have a little more life experience than us.

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