Will I Effect My Child
From the first touch
What defines my child's behavior?
What defines my child's outcome and where does it begin? It begins as early as conception. Taking drugs including prescription drugs, smoking, drinking and depriving one's body of the proper nutrition will effect a child's development. But it doesn't stop there. There are many other factor's in a child's development even after birth and many don't take notice or take them serious.
Emotional issues in relationships contributes to a child's development. In fact, the standards we set in our lives effects our children. Children brains soak everything up. You may not think their listening/perceiving or seeing whats going on around them, but they are fully aware. They sense everything. So what effects does my bad behavior have on my children?
The fact is....your behavior effects your children. Your attitudes, your responses, your moods, your temper, your instability will effect your child. In fact it will define who your child becomes and how well he/she manages in their life. After all they learned from you.
And how crucial is my behavior to my childs development? Very! We as parents influence our children everytimewe are in their presence. A child is aware of everything and misses nothing. So think twice before you act or act out.
There are numerous consequences that can arise from inappropriate behavior while in the presence of your children. They may not come to light in your children till their adult years, but they will surely arise. Opportunities your child may have had (if raised in a functional family) have been compromised. They don't do well in school ie; their education levels or they don't make friends as readily, all necessary and crucial in your child's development.
Dysfunction has a severe impact on children and It stems from emotional and/or physical abuse from the parents. A child can live in fear and feel hopeless, neglected, overwelmed, stressed, alienated, depressed and shamed and feeling unworthy while living with abuse and this will carry over into their adult lives because they have become accustomed to the dysfunction so anything "healthy" is confusing and seems out of sorts. Their relationships are compromised.They have developed fears, shame, anger, trust issues, anxiety and hopelessness. Depending on how dysfunctional a family is there can also be sexual dysfunction as well. Closeness and Intimacy can become an issue. After all, if your children perceive this in you then this has become their perception of it.
Stability is crucial to a child's development. Drugs and alcohol are a BIG NO NO while raising children. Anything that alters one's behavior is devastating to a child. Please take this into consideration if you are planning on having children. Don't introduce your child to this madness! Those days need to be gone if you want your child to have any kind of life. If you don't have a life, chances are your child won't either. What you are is what your child will become. It is crucial when starting a family. If you depend on drugs or alcohol to relieve your anxiety, chances are your child will too.
Your children will need structure and motivation and they will need your support. Children will not thrive without love, trust, faith and hope. They do not need resentment, anger and stress or the reprocussions of it. After all, don't you want to see your child to grow up healthy and have a good outlook on life? If you don't prepare yourselves with the tools for your child's development...who will? Your child will become what you instill in them...that is a fact! Outside influence will effect your child's stability. Their outcome depends on YOU!
It's crucial that children grow up in a healthy relationship. This will aid in who they become and how they manage life. If you can't manage your life, chances are your children will follow in your footsteps. Your children are a direct result of you. You are their role model. You set the standards, so be a good example for your children to follow. Let us become aware of the example we as parents are setting for them and the influence we will have on them.
If a child is to trust, they must first trust you. If a child is to love, they must first be loved. If a child is not to fear, they must first learn to live without it. If a child is to live.....they must first see hope. So please parents......Let us give our children the best we have to offer them. Let us be a good example~