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When Choosing A Professional Go with Your Gut says Work at Home Grandma
Be Careful When Selecting a Professional
What's in an initial?
Have you ever found yourself seeking legal or medical information only to be at a loss as to what all the initials mean? After all, when it comes right down to it, they are really just a formal nuance that sometimes means absolutely nothing at all.
Professionals take training in order to comply with government guidelines for practicing medicine, law, dentistry, etc. The titles DVM, DDS, PHD, MSW, PLLP, ESQ. JD, MBA, etc. actually turn out to mean nothing at all if you pick the wrong professional. Like anything else there are good and bad. Recently I made the mistake of looking at an initial, a good reference and good education and what I received was $40,000 of debt and total misrepresentation. Forget the initials, the diploma and the beautiful office. Go with your gut.
Just because a person studies hard and graduates top of their class doesn’t make them a good lawyer, doctor, psychologist, social worker, or dentist. In fact, being at the top of the class can sometimes leave them with book knowledge but lacking street smarts. They become arrogant, self-righteous, bigots that instead of listening to their patients or clients, they form their own hypothesis of how to solve the particular problem without hearing a word said by the person they are servicing. In other words: they hear but they do not listen.
Practice sometimes makes perfect? Some people might think this is true but I’ve experienced many professionals that have been practicing for years and would never recommend them to anyone. So what does make the difference? The professional who listens and learns to read emotions; the professional who sympathizes enough with their client that even though they have never personally experienced the same problem can willingly empathize and put themselves in the client’s shoes.
Have you ever heard the expression: until you have walked in my shoes, you cannot understand my pain. None of us can fully understand another’s pain or fear until we have walked in their shoes. We cannot always do this physically but we can do it spiritually and emotionally.
My personal belief in what makes a good doctor, lawyer, or any other professional is their willingness to reach out and put your shoes on their feet. When they can do this, they will be able to feel your frustration and will readily be able to share your pain. Go with your gut and success will be yours.