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A Wrestler and a little boy
Why do boys like wrestlers?
Wrestlers are just like any other sports figure these days, they are all playing a part. But what part in raising intelligent, productive boys are wrestlers playing? They instill violence into every young boys mind. With all the boys, and girls for that matter, that watch wrestling with their fathers or mothers, they are seeing that it is OK to slam someone in the face, or to throw things at someone's head. But is this a positive role model we want for our kids?
Sometimes we as a society will idealize someone that is televised or viewed as a celebrity. This can be quiet confusing for little boys and girls who only see the negative actions of those celebrities, such as a wrestling match on TV. When boys are growing up they are taught not to hit girls, not to throw chairs, and not to bully others. But when they watch wrestling they see these very things on TV and think that it must be OK if the famous wrestlers on TV are doing it. This has lead to many dangerous situations for girls and boys of all ages.
The dangers of wrestling
As parents we are supposed to support our children and teach them right from wrong. Is wrestling really a great example of what is right in this world? There have been many situations that mother's have had to face, situations that could have been prevented, had their children not watched wrestling.
Wrestlers are trained professional fighters. They are trained in how to land, how to take a hit, and how to throw a hit that looks more painful than it actually is. What children, especially boys don't understand is that the wrestlers on TV go through so much training just to be a pro-wrestler. The use of warnings on television aired wrestling matches is one step in the right direction, but simply telling the viewers "Do not try this at home", is not enough.
Many children have tried these stunts at home with their brothers, sisters, and friends. Some of these situations have resulted in deaths and serious injuries. These all could have been prevented. If we as parents monitor what our children are exposed to and speak with them about the consequences of wrestling with their friends and siblings and causing harm. They should address the validity of the actions they see on television and reinforce that wrestlers are trained and that the wrestling they see on TV is not all real.
What can I do as a Parent
I am a parent of a child that loves wrestling. His father introduced him to it. As a mother and a non-violence advocate, I feel that wrestling in my house is not happening. My son spends time with his father on every other night and each time he comes back with little bruise spots from his friend. His dad thinks it is perfectly fine for his son to wrestle with his friend and he even finds it entertaining to watch. When I address the bruises with him, he tells me he is a boy.
Why do men think it is OK and perfectly acceptable for a boy to fight and get bruised when playing with friends? I may be a women, and I may see this from a different point of view than the men, but when you are playing and it leaves bruises, it is no longer considered playing. We as mothers have to stand up to the father's and express to them that fighting and violence is not a way to play with our friends.
Watching wrestling is OK as long as your child understands the difference in real fighting and scripted fighting. Wrestling that is on TV is scripted, the danger is not as much of a threat as it is if you where to slam someone in the head with a metal chair. Children do not understand the difference. They have to be taught the difference, by their parents. When they see something that looks funny or fun they will try it. Simply telling them no is not going to cut it, we have to explain, educate, and redirect them to a proper way of playing with their friends.
We can't always be there with our kids when they are playing. But we can effectively be the voice of reason in their heads. With constant reminders, and educational sit downs with them, we can hopefully put a stop to all the tragedies that take place when young children try to imitate their idols from the wrestling rings on TV.
Today my son went to visit his favorite wrestlers, and as a mother I support him in visiting them, but as a non-violence advocate I explained to him the importance of not performing the actions he sees them perform on TV. He is 6, and like any 6 year old he will have to be reminded of how to treat people and proper ways to play. As a parent that is my responsibility and I do not take it lightly, and neither should you.
Parents weigh in
Do you consider wrestling an educational way to spend time with your boys?
We as Parents should not promote this
Why do we as parents of young boys allow our children to participate in such events?
Where are the parents of these young boys who have killed their brothers, sisters, and neighbors or friends while wrestling?
Can society put a stop to the unfortunate misguided actions of children who are left unattended and commit murder in the name of wrestling?