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A Secret Hideout for Kids

Updated on June 7, 2012

Children's Home Life

When chidren are growing up, they are sometimes going to feel alone, rejected and unwanted even though it might not be the case. Children are still young so they are going to be reacting differently to situations because they are experiencing most things for the first time ever.

Think of it like this, your in high school and you found your first love which happens to be your first partner. You become so inlove and a couple weeks down the line she turns on you and finds someone else. It's your first time being inlove and they break yout heart. You know what they say, "the first cut is the deepest".

Children sometimes just want to be by themselves to think and decide how are they going to react to a certain situation. Below are a couple reasons why your child would want to be alone.

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Disclaimer : This page is my advice only and I am not responsible for any loss and damage.

Reasons why your child wants to be alone

There could me more than one reason why your child wants to be alone, you just need to monitor and determine where something has gone wrong. Here are a couple of reasons of what could be the problem just to attempt to narrow it down for you :

Your paying too much attention to your Ipad, work, yourself.

Your not listening to them. When I say listening I mean kneel down, look them in their eyes and say yes my child, what can I do for you.

Making eye contact can be extremely important because it makes the child feel special and smile, if you just speak to him or her and carry on with what you doing, the child can feel lonely and unwanted.

You speak to them and listen but do not spend real quality time with your child.

You paying more attention to the newborn or other siblings, this can really damage a child and make them jealous and act nasty towards others.

Maybe your household is just not happy or as happy as it use to be and the child feels neglected.

It could be 1 or more of these reasons and others that I have not mentioned here but why not read on to see what you can do about it?

Treating child abuse and neglect

Child Abuse and Neglect
Child Abuse and Neglect

"In this highly readable and engaging book, McCoy and Keen have provided something quite valuable to students. Spanning chapters from the history of child maltreatment to modern diagnostic pitfalls, Child Abuse and Neglect will enhance any course dealing with this topic, from social work, to child development." - Stephen J. Ceci, Helen L. Carr Professor of Developmental Psychology

 

Abused and Neglected children

Psychotherapy of Abused and Neglected Children, Second Edition
Psychotherapy of Abused and Neglected Children, Second Edition

"This revised edition provides a much-needed resource for the classroom. Practical strategies for assessing and intervening with children who have experienced maltreatment are based on a sound theoretical framework. The authors' depth of clinical experience is communicated with clear, credible examples." - Caroline L. Burry, PhD, University of Maryland, Baltimore.

 

What to do when your child wants to be alone?

You should let them be alone (unless depressed) and give them time to think about what is going. Children will always want to feel grown up and grown up's will always want to be children again, it's just the way it works. Don't leave your child by themselves for long though. Go and comfort them and let them know your their and tell them how much you love them.

The thing you should remember is that they are not going to feel unwanted once in their life, probably like ten times or more. What I suggest is, take a weekend off just too spend some quality time with your child.

Enjoy it and appreciate the time you have with your child which is a gift from God because you will not be able to be around for them their whole life.

Below are a 3 ways you can spend time with your young one and give them a place to go and something to do when they feel like being alone.

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A definition not found in the dictionary - Not leaving: an act of trust and love, often deciphered by children" - Markus Zusak

Use the spare room

If you have a spare room, why not let your child go there when they want to be alone. Here's how :

1] Clear the floor and if you have a tent that will fit inside the room, set it up and get camping portable lights. Your child can put their wanted belongings in the tent for when going there. Portable lights just make the experience more fun.

2] If you do not have or want to purchase a tent, what you can do is put an old mattress down with a big enough blanket covering the mattress. Lift up the the middle of the blanket and place a wooden pole on the mattress holding the blanket up in the middle. This will act as a tent and be a very nice get away place for any child. It is fun and exciting.

You do note have to place the tent in a room, if you live in a safe neighbor you could place the tent in your backyard.

Do not forget that when you are doing all of this, that you should include your child. Ask for their help or even their opinion. After all it is for them!

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Get away tent

Pacific Play Tents Lil Nursery - Portable Play Tent and Sun Shelter for Infants and Toddlers - 36" x 36" x 36"
Pacific Play Tents Lil Nursery - Portable Play Tent and Sun Shelter for Infants and Toddlers - 36" x 36" x 36"

This perfects childs tent is :

Protected with SPF 30

It has a roll down front mesh door which comes with a velcro closing strip

Durable, easy to clean and water resistant polyehyline floor and carry bag

 

Lantern for your Childs tent

Fisher-Price Kid-Tough Explorers 2-in-1 Lantern
Fisher-Price Kid-Tough Explorers 2-in-1 Lantern

This lantern can :

With hold many falls

It can be converted into a direction light and

Pivoting handle

 

Use your garden

If you live in a safe neighborhood, why not build a little fort. Here's how :

If there is a nice spot where two walls meet, that will be perfect because then you only need 2 walls. If you do not or if there is plants or something in the way then just set it up along the wall or what ever suits you.

This is how I built my fort as a kid. If you want other designs why not check out the books on all the ideas you possibly need below or check out the how to YouTube videos.

1] You need one drum (water drum) which should be about 1m to 1.5m high (or the height of your child). You will need more drums if you are not setting it up where two walls meet (corner).

2) Go to your local supermarket and see if they will give you old boxes to use for the walls. Try to ask for tall boxes that can connect to the water drums.

3] Get some duct tape and if you want you and your child can draw and decorate the boxes.

4] Tape the boxes to the drum/s, remember to leave a space to enter or make a door if you like.

5] Use any material or plastic cover to lay down on the floor and if you want you can either put a mattress or a chair down (which ever your child wants). Maybe add some things your child likes like their walky talky or spy gadgets. Try and make the experience as fun as possible for your child.

6] If you need to add a roof (if you put the fort against the wall) you can pin a piece of material or plastic cover from the tightly taped boxes to the wall. If you did not put it against a wall, you can tape the cover from the one side to the other on the boxes. Make sure the boxes are all tightly fastened.

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Children aren't coloring books. You don't get to fill them with your favorite colors." - Khaled Hosseini

Use a tree

If your child is not at a responsible age it is not advised that they go up in the tree unsupervised. Building a tree house, here's how :

Please note that building a tree house, you need a suitable tree and note that it will probably take longer than a weekend to build.

1] You will need at least 25 pieces of wood planks (for the floor) that have not been water damaged and are stable enough to hold your beloved child.

2] The tree should have thick branches spreading (almost horizontally) so that you are able to make a close to level platform. You need to nail the wood into the tree but make sure both sides of the wood plank are nailed tightly and ensure no nails edges are sticking out so your child does not have to be rushed to hospital for your silly mistake.

3} Once you nailed all the wood planks for the floor you should be able to walk around it in a circle. It has to be able to hold you if you want it to hold your child.

4] Now you must look and see where you can nail planks vertically to make some walls. If a plank seems even a little unstable, remove it and fond a better way to structure it. Don't chance it.

5] If you want a roof, you can use a plastic cover or material that will be able to withstand the rain and the wind. Nail it to the wood on either side. Do not nail it into wood that has been wet or is more prone to getting wet. You do not want the thing to collapse.

6] I recommend that you buy a ladder (if needed) instead of making one. Making one there is more of a chance it snapping or braking.

7]Put anything your child wants in their, board games, radio etc

Include your child in the creation of the tree house and make them feel important.

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Tree House Roll Out Ladder

Original Toy Company Rope Climbing Ladder for Kids
Original Toy Company Rope Climbing Ladder for Kids

This roll out ladder is :

Solid Beech Wood Rungs for durability and strength

Heavy-duty, nylon rope

Ready for your tree house or tree fort

6 feet from rung 1 to rung 6

 

Building Tree Houses and More

How to Build Treehouses, Huts and Forts
How to Build Treehouses, Huts and Forts

"How to hammer, how to saw, how to dream. The perfect guidebook for kids." - Wally Lawrnece, reader and weekend carpenter. 

 

Play houses you can build - This weekend

Playhouses You Can Build: Indoor and Backyard Designs (Weekend Project Book Series)
Playhouses You Can Build: Indoor and Backyard Designs (Weekend Project Book Series)

"Packed with diagrams, tips and easy-to-follow instructions, this manual provides detailed instructions for constructing 14 different models of houses." - Stacie Gentile, 

 

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      When my grandkids come over, they have a tipi that sets up in a snap to hide out in. :)

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      maryLuu 5 years ago

      Nice lens!

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      CyberTech LM 5 years ago

      You are doing a great job on all the Lens! Stop by some time!