I think it depends on who's funeral it is. If you are going to a funeral to support a friend or a long distance relative, keeping children home is probably a wise idea. On the other hand, if it is a close relative that the child was involved with, I think taking the child is appropriate. Of course, you should openly discuss what is happening so the child is not confused. But, it is only fair to let the child say goodbye as well. When my grandma passed away, I took my children. At the end, my daughter looked at me and said... Mommy, it is okay. I saw Grandma and she told me everything was going to be alright. - What a grownup thing to say out of a 5 year olds mouth!