Don't be a chauffeur, cook and maid for your teen! Teens can do a lot of things for themselves, and sometimes the only way they'll discover the satisfaction of being self-sufficient is when the maid, cook, and chauffeur are on strike. Maybe all the "servants" shouldn't "go on strike" at the same time though... and a few "how-to" lessons might be needed. Keep the lines of communication open. Have a sense of humour, and know that your kids are smart people and can learn new skills when they are motivated. Good luck!