When someone tells a lie about me and passes it around to others and others believe it....that I find difficult to forgive and let go. It usually takes me a while, maybe even a few years, but let go I do.
There's no point in holding on to the annoyance and the hurt.
If I have the chance to talk to others about what they believe, then I do. However sometimes it is not possible and so I have to let go, in silence.
A couple of years ago one such lie was circulated about me, with the result that a particular family member refused to share some good news and I was left out of the circle.
That exclusion involved some very dear people and the shock I felt set me reeling for months and months. I couldn't understand their lack of loyalty or need for lies and slander.
Eventually I got the chance to confront them and told them very cldearly if that happened again, if I had to suffer like that, I would leave the family. It hasn't happened since, at least i presume it hasn't.
The incident created a lack of trust and so i found it difficult to let go, but I have allowed the hurt to disappear and the trust to return. Things are better, but you never know what's around the corner... Thanks for the question.