I just want to thank everyone for their advice thus far. It means a lot more to me than you may think. I have been through a lot and have wanted a child for some time so lucky for me it did not just pop up. Although i am still young only 21 i have been raised with newborns my entire life so i at least got a toe out the door, as for being a father this is like walking on the moon, i have never thought what that actually means till now. For this i am grateful i am asking myself what it means now instead of years after my child being born. I have till the end of January to figure out exactly what it means, and then continue learning the rest of my life. the more advice you all can give can only improve what i do not already know thank you all.
P.s. As for the mother i would not dare miss an appointment with her or i am sure all you ladies, and men who have missed one, would know what would happen to me. Ha ha i do not need that :D