Why do people strongly resent only children? It is jealousy and envy or other f

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   gmwilliamsposted 12 years ago

   Why do people strongly resent only children?  It is jealousy and envy or other factors?

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   Happyboomernurseposted 12 years ago

   I don't remember resenting only children while I was growing up, but I do remember feeling jealous of the love, attention and material things they seemed to have.
   I think only children are becoming much more prevalent in our modern society because it is becoming harder and harder for parents to afford kids and also to take care of them when not only spouses, but also aunts, uncles and many grandparents are working.

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   Blond Logicposted 12 years ago

   I think they are "spoiled" not just with material things but also with the attention. This develops into a "look at me attitude" that carries on into their later life such as at school and adulthood.
   
   I think only children don't learn how to share, don't communicate well  with others, and generally are less well behaved.
   
   In school they probably excel in classes but not socially.
   
   In saying that, I believe they miss out on so much by being an only child. They don't learn how to stand up for themselves, they don't learn the hierarchy of a family, and they miss out being a sibling.

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      Rena Alexanderposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Blond Logic, if you truly believe that, then I guess you believe that all blondes are dumb.
      You cannot say all only children are the same way.  There are plenty of siblings who are spoiled and have a  “look at me attitude,” and you know this.  You a

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree.   Onlies are indeed privileged and they have many things that those with siblings do not have.   Onlies are not missing out on anything, in fact, it is those with siblings who wish they were like us!

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   writerwoman222posted 12 years ago

   I don't recall an 'only' child being resented, rather they were pitied for being alone without siblings...

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      Rena Alexanderposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Writerwoman22, the people who "pity" an only child is jealous and envious.  Do you pity children with siblings who are often bullied, neglected, feel lost in the shuffle, and suffer from low self esteem due to favoritism in the family?

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree with you Rena.   It is children in multichild families who tend to suffer from parental favoritism, sibling bullying, and other things associated with siblingship.   We onlies do not have to endure such drama at all!

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   Rena Alexanderposted 11 years ago

   Writerwoman22, the people who "pity" an only child are, indeed, jealous and envious.  Do you pity the many children with siblings who are often bullied, neglected, feel lost in the shuffle, and suffer from low self esteem due to favoritism in the family?

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      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Totally agree with you Rena.    Many children with siblings, especially those in medium large to very large families, receive little to no attention.   The oldest gets the shaft, the middle child is ignored while the youngest gets all the adulation!

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