Thank you for your question K9keystrokes. I wouldn't really say that nothing is as presumed, or that nothing is presumed. I mean, if you are 9 months pregnant, and mentally healthy and physically healthy, it is presumed you will have the baby arrive... so planning sure can help! Diapers, a car seat, bedding, food in your freezer - all good things to have planned. It's the things beyond our control really that I think become obsessive for new parents to plan. Parents plan that things will be a certain way, and like all of life - not just parenting - life can throw you for a loop and all the planning can't help. I guess my final advice would be to plan for the unexpected, plan for the mistakes, plan to laugh at yourself, and plan to revise your plan!