I have raised my children much differently than my parents had raised me. My four beautiful children are all grown now and each one of them know that they are so loved by me and special, just because God gave them to me.
My parents were absolutely too strict, worried about everything, complained a lot, and I never felt accepted for just being myself.....I felt that when I did well at something or behaved well, that this was acceptable. I was criticized, and my brother was as well. I always say that it was like growing up in the army, with my dad as the sergeant! My parents used to say, just do it, no ifs, ands or buts!
When I raised my kids, I taught them right from wrong of course, told them to stop when they were doing something where they could get hurt, or someone else could get hurt, reprimanded them when they were disrespectful to me or to anyone else, and also I gave them time outs when necessary. I always liked to explain to my children, what the problem was, why I was reprimanding them, so that they would understand that I loved them no matter what, but, that they had to listen to me because I knew what was best for them. In addition, over the years, I have told each one of my children that they could come to me and tell me or ask me anything, and I would always be there for them.
Also, as they were growing up, I always gave them my loving arms to cuddle with me, to be acknowledged, to be listened to, to be encouraged, and most importantly, to know how much I love them. As adult children, all four of my kids know that whatever happens in each of their lives, that while I'm around, they can still always come to me. I have told each one of my kids, that no matter what, they can just drive here to me and stay with me, and it doesn't matter what they've done, or didn't do, because they know that mom is here for them with unconditional love. The love I have for each one of my children was given to me by God.....I thank Him every day for my children, and pray for them each day for protection and strength. The bible tells us that children are a blessing from the Lord....and I can certainly attest to that!!!
Thanks for this question, it's a great one!!!