First of all I would have to say that you are doing a great job being a stay-at-home mom. My wife is also a stay-at-home and she has the same problem with our 2 year old son. The only thing that I know is that on the weekends we make everything routine for the kids, so it makes it a little easier for us throughout the day. We have breakfast then they go outside and play for a few hours, which makes cleaning the house a whole lot easier for both of us.
Good Luck !
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