I am raising two teens. They are delightful. Teens are developing and growing emotionally and physically and discovering who they might one day grow up to be. Giving teens set boundaries, being clear about rules and why they are in place and not making assumptions are important. Being interested in their interests and making time to do things together in which you can both learn about each other will bring you closer. If you teen is asking to do something that you have concerns about ask him or her to come up with a plan and present it to you. Be specific about the concerns you have, practice negotiating and helping him or her to be realistic. Ask yourself what it is you need/want to be able to meet him or her part way or create a compromise.