I wish I had time today to write a hub about this.
In short, my family had to step in and take 2 little girls from their parents home. All involved were family. We tried to help the adults who wouldn't change and it didn't work. This is where most people stop...but what about the children? Defenseless, impressionable, etc....they are destin to be like their parents or worse if someone doesn't help them. I'm sparing many details but if what you see is that bad...what is it you don't? We learned of horrible things once we took the girls. We had acted pretty fast and thought we'd "got there in time"....we had no idea how wrong we were and how bad things were beyond what we'd saw and known.
Too often people like to gripe about the "troubled" family member and express concern for their kids but then when the time comes to cut off the adults...they cut off the children too; leaving them to fend for themselves. Later, the conversations take place about how the children are now "troubled" and blame the parents but when they knew what was happening...did nothing to help the situation. This to me is no different than watching a child drown.
What happens when the dad comes home and catches mom in the act? What happens to the kids when the bookie comes to collect? What happens when drugs are involved? Is it just mom and dad you have to worry about? Who else is coming over that is likely of the same nature or worse?
Cut off the adults when they've proven to be beyond help but don't let the children sink with them...they need someone.