I was a papa's girl in my younger days but I can’t say that I am not anymore. Though for 19 years being far away from his roof (I now live in Canada), I still feel that being a papa’s girl has never changed. Taking advantage of the close loving attention from my pa had never been an accomplishment. I’m the eldest and had absorbed ALL of the restrictions than the youngest of the brood of four, my sister, who had experienced freedom while growing up. Our pa’s stiff upbringing and humble stories of his childhood has molded us to be better children under his discipline. But I feel that I am closer to him in many ways that benefit me than my ma’s own discipline style. I can ask my pa anything without taking advantage of him because he has a soft, kind and generous heart and that’s the way he is. My ma is of Chinese descent and is tight in regards to money value and is stronger. “You must earn it.” she would say.
I feel that my experience is mirrored in one of my girls. If one of them feels more attached to me, then she’s definitely a mama’s girl. One of them could take advantage of me but that doesn't prove one to become a mommy's girl. ~coffeegginmyrice