The same way worked all three times for me - that is, with each of my three sons - on or around their 2nd birthdays I took all of the dummies, and threw them in the bin. I pre-warned each boy, about a week before. I put the dummies in the bin right before their eyes and told them that they wouldn't be needing them any more. There were no problems at all. None of the boys asked for their dummies back, or cried for them, or had tantrums because they couldn't have them. But that's probably because they were used to my style of parenting by then: no nonsense! Up until a certain again I don't give my children choices, or leave decisions up to them - I decide how things are going to be, then I tell the boys. I decide what they're having to eat, and they eat what's put in front of them or they go hungry, and so on. The same with dummies - I made the decision that they could have dummies (only when they were tired and struggling to sleep), and I made the decision as to when the dummies would be taken away. They get to make choices about the fun stuff, like which toys and games to play with, or where to go for walks and fresh air. I make the decisions that I should be making as a parent. This way works perfectly for us.