My sons 24 yr. old cousin is developmentally disabled. He has to live with his parent/guardian as he cannot take care of himself. On several occasions he has raised his fist to my son or threatened him. When I speak up, I'm told that he is disabled and to just ignore him, or tell my son to leave his cousin alone. That makes it seem that my son is the one being punished for what his cousin has done or said. I don't want to send the wrong signals to my son about life & what may arise. I think that the cousin has been taught that his disability will help him get away with alot.
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i agree its hard to answer it when you dont know what the disability is. i don't even know. He's 24 but has the mind of a teenager as he is a bit slow. not sure if its opitz syndrome but i know his little brother has it so he might too.
I explain to the kids what they have done wrong and ask them if they understand what I am trying to say. If they don't understand then I try another approach.
Well, if his parent/guardian refuses to take responsibility, the only reasonable thing you can do is tell them he's not welcome in your home, & don't go to theirs. otherwise it'll be a never-ending battle of you needing to protect your child.
I agree that my 12 yr. old shouldn't have to tolerate it at all. I have spoken to his cousin several times. It goes in one ear and out the other. He is disabled but he isn't stupid. Some people seem to think its one and the same, but it isn't.