OK...for this old Great Gram....it's all Past tense.......but, being completely honest, Carly.........During the years I was "being raised," I recall being rebellious now and then and downright angry at other times.......and typically, thinking my parents were every awful word I could think of. I surely would be a better parent!!
Well.....I was and am so much like BOTH of my parents, especially my mother...that my 4 adult (parents themselves now) sons have taken to calling me by my mother's first name.
If I was still that young, uninformed kid who thought her parents were "mean," I might take offense to being called my mother. However, as a mature adult parent....it all came to light. Many many aha moments. My parents did what they did, disciplined and taught as they did.......100% out of love, concern, responsibility and duty. Their "ways" might have stood some polishing...but....they definitely did the very best they could and I am certain of this...........So, whatever I thought I might "improve upon".....perhaps I did....while making my own original mistakes. ALL parents make them. period.
If my sons have their gripes....so be it. I too, did all that I did from sheer love and devotion to them. If they were going to sue, they've have done it by now, I'm sure.. lol
They are happy, healthy, well-adjusted, successful members of society.........Just lucky? Hell, no. I had a bit to do with that and I will take the credit, gladly. For any pain I caused them, I apologize and ask forgiveness.....for it would never ever have been intentional.
I see them now as parents and I have not a single doubt that they are much better parents than I was. Isn't that called evolution or progress or "the way it goes,"???
Such is life. BTW....being a grandparent ROCKS!!