forbid it? The premise here is that boys from poorer backgrounds have absolutely nothing to offer girls from more affluent backgrounds. In essence, it would be a losing battle to say the least. Going to movies and other activities involve monies which such boys do not simply have. Furthermore, if something disastrous would occur, he would not have the socioeconomic wherewithal to get her out of a difficult situation. In addition to the aforementioned instances, boys from poorer socioeconomic background often have diametrically opposite goals, aspirations, and desires.
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THANK YOU, you have eloquently my premise regarding the issue. Poor boys are liabilities to the MORE AFFLUENT GIRL. Such boys simply have opposite goals to that of the more affluent among us. AFLLUENT GIRLS should only date AFFLUENT BOYS!
Well, YOU are the minute exception to poor boys who become wildly successful. The average poor boy does not have the drive nor care about bettering himself. Poor boys are harmful all around- a liability which only depreciates as time passes!
gmwilliams, I think it is pretty ignorant to assume all poor people have no ambition.
Not all but the majority of poor people, particularly in the United States, do not have any ambition. They are content living from hand to mouth. They also have a passive attitude towards life and disdain any type of ambition or success!
Money is THE IMPORTANT COMPONENT in society. Without money, one does not survive! No one should settle and only strive for the best and that should include relationships. An affluent girl would be totally unwise if she dated a poor boy!
Who said it is NOT important?
From your comment I see what I have said before: people pay way too much attention to it, it is much more important than anything else.
It's not the money that matters, but the feelings and a possible intellectual gap.
Now YOU figure that out. If a girl gets into an indelicate situation while dating a poor boy, she is up a creek without a paddle. This poor boy CANNOT HELP her get out of the morass but an AFFLUENT boy can! Poor boys spell TROUBLE, simple!
So she should date wealthy boys who run around knocking women up and encouraging them to get abortions? Does not sound like a man with much character to me.
A poor boy is like an albatross and a painful toothache, who needs it and get rid of it! No affluent girl in her thinking mind would ever want to date a poor boy! He simply cannot has nothing to offer now and in the future! Avoid him !
Beautiful, loving, and touching story!
Micadeolu, you are a woman after my own heart. Many young girls realize TOO LATE how perilous such a relationship is. Such girls enter into quite sorrowful situations. A poor boy can only mean NO GOOD, HARM, and A RUINED FUTURE !
In many cases,a poor boy is a risk for an affluent girl.She has been inculcated w/different priorities & life choices than the poor boy.The poor boy in all likelihood will be anti-success & anti-achievement.His goals will be DIVERGENTLY diffe
lmao, yeah I'd be horrified if my daughter wanted to date someone like gmwilliams. Frightening.
Duffsmom, while I understand your premise, the average poor boy has no long term goals and aspirations. The average poor boy gets nowhere in life while the average affluent girl has high aspirations and goals. Poor boys are just a bad bet period!
gmwilliams you are a sociologist and your outlook is disappointing. Do you not believe that there are exceptions? Is there no hope that someone can rise above their upbringing? Then you believe in a stratified society - a form of prejudice--no?
I am being totally realistic here. Most poor people do not rise above their socioeconomic level. They are content being where they are. They have a mindset which precludes achievement and success. This phenomena is the culture of poverty!
Would you say then that no one should date, marry or entertain anyone outside of their "class?" Your take on this is so troubling to me.
People date the same or up, never DOWN.
Yes, say no and explain the negative consequence of your daughter dating such a boy. I , for one, see no positive outcome whatsoever in a dating match between an aflluent girl and a poor boy! This boy has NOTHING TO OFFER your daughter !
You're assuming, because the boy's family isn't affluent, that the boy will Never be successful. I taught my kids not to stereo type!
Yes, in a majority of cases. Boys from poor homes have an entirely different mindset from boys from affluent homes. Boys from poor homes are NOT taught to strive and be successful. They are often inculcated to just settle and just to get by!
@Gmwiiliams, Actually poor boy and girls are more hard worker than spoiled rich kids, they have everything handed to them in a silver platter. @Gmwilliams my grandpa was poor but later own his own business and made 1000s dollars a day.
Well, I understand your premise on this issue, to put it succinctly poor boys have absolutely nothing to offer more affluent girls. They have nothing in common and such relationships are doomed from the start and considered to be an utter waste!
Do something about it. Work harder to win her parents' trust. If you really want to be with someone, you make extra effort for that person because of love. What matters in the end is the person WHO you are right now, not WHAT you have been made of.
It is SO DETRIMENTAL for an affluent girl to date a poor boy. First of all, the affluent girl will change for THE WORSE. She is more likely to adopt the poor boy's stance/attitude towards life which is often quite negative in nature.
Trish, excellent answer. Voted up!
Yeah I have to say, I've dated "well off" men and they all had entitlement issues. They are used to getting what they order, so they buy you dinner and expect first date sex. I prefer men with character built by having a normal life.
C'mon now, sitting in the park and eating popcorn and holding holds will only get a date so far. THAT becomes QUITE TIRED after a while and poor boy gets dumped in favor of a more acceptable and affluent date-AFFLUENT BOY wins HAND DOWN!
Sorry, but I'm engaged to a man you'd consider "poor". I dated many wealthy men and not a one of them had any character or personality. Just spoiled selfish brats.
There are plenty of wealthy men with character and personality! What are you talking about? Don't you want the best for yourself! Smart dating is the name of the game!
I do want the best for myself. That's why I am with a man who loves my children rather than seeing them as a problem. And I never dated a wealthy man with character or personality. They're hiding I suppose?