Would you prefer a son or a daughter as your first child? what about the second?

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   reddviewposted 11 years ago

   Would you prefer a son or a daughter as your first child? what about the second?
   
   I'm trying to get an idea for a new hub and just wanted a varied viewpoint from everybody
   
   
   
   

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   lburmasterposted 11 years ago

   Daughter first, then a son. The reason because the eldest feels pressure to be the best they can be, but the first born son always feels pressure to be the best. That way both of my children could strive for the best out of life.
   However, my first is a boy, Corbin. We will see what the second one will be in two years or so. This one will keep me busy for a while.

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Well best of wishes with your son and I hope he turns out the best.
      In what ways do you think the daughter would cope with the pressure of being the first born?
      
      How would you as a parent help reduce the pressure?

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      lburmasterposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The same way I delt with it. Always striving to be the best, even though my brother is more intelligent than I am. I make up for it with organization. Reducing the pressure? My parents never did, but I'd stress to enjoy the little things.

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      so i can assume you as a parent believe in letting the child face just enough hardship to make him/her stronger. . . Its good that you are there for the advice they need yet they must learn to handle adequate pressure and find a way out

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   cjpooja26posted 11 years ago

   Daughter first and then a son..................................................................................

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      could you please explain what makes you choose a daughter first and then a son

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   Elderberry Artsposted 11 years ago

   I didn't mind at all with any of my children. I have two boys and a girl.

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I originally wanted a boy first, you know the big brother for the little girl.  But when I found out my first was going to be a girl - I switched gears very quickly and adjusted and was so excited to have a daughter.  The second child was a daughter also and frankly I can't imagine it any other way now.  They are all grown and both are lovely young women.

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      so do you still think a brother could have been more of a protective figure for your daughters?

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      duffsmomposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No, I sort of outgrew that notion. My kids were lucky in that their dad worked from home and was always there for them.  Drove on field trips, was able to do things at the school.  So it worked out.

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   peachpurpleposted 11 years ago

   anyone will do. My first born is daughter while second is son. My daughter pampers and love to disturb her little kid brother very much. Both age differs alot, 12 years different. Hence, the elder sister takes a good care of him and pampers him too. No quarrels and no arguments. Older kids always give way to younger siblings especially with such a big age gap.

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      but dont you think an age gap larger than  5 or 6 years places a great communication gap between your children?

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   Sharkye11posted 11 years ago

   All my life I wanted a little boy first, because I have 5 sisters, and 6 nieces, and that is a lot of girls! As soon as I found out I was pregnant, I instantly wanted  the baby to be a girl. I'm not sure if the change of heart was because I felt more comfortable with girls from all my experience, or if because I sensed on some level that I was indeed having a girl.
   
   Now that we are planning number two, I honestly don't feel a preference. I love being the mommy of a wonderful little girl, and recently I have become an aunt to an awesome little boy. Now that I have met him, I see that there is not that much difference in babies. They are all lovable!

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      reddviewposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for this beautiful answer

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   Edward J. Palumboposted 9 years ago

   I grew up with a brother, attended an all-male academy, joined the Marine Corps, so much of my early life was surrounded by a "testosterone mist". When we learned we'd have our first child, I prayed for a healthy baby but wanted a daughter…and that prayer was ansered. My daughter, now 28, was followed by my son, now 23. I am proud of both but I will say that my wife and daughter accomplished a great deal to polish a few of the rough edges of my personality.

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   nomadspiritposted 8 years ago

   a daughter first. As girls are just so sweet and special, and are the perfect introduction to motherhood.

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    Jane Belleposted 7 years ago

    First a boy, so when he grows up he can protect his little sister

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