Good parenting means being unselfish, mature, and responsible. It also means being humble and humanistic. It is treating children with the utmost respect and consideration. It is guiding children and respecting, nurturing, and encourage their individuality and innate talents. It is realizing that children are individuals with their own wants, beliefs, goals, and desires.
Good parenting is not using upmanship and playing powergames with your children. It is not comparing one child to another, expecting all of your children to be alike or to your approximation of what a "good/perfect child" should be. It is not expecting your child to be an exact replica of you. It is not forcing your ideas, beliefs, and ideologies down your children's throats and disavowing them if they elect to disagree with you.
Good parenting is encouraging your child's innate talents and interests. It is preordaining a child to live YOUR goals, dreams, and life. It is considering your child's ultimate happiness although his/her goals or lifepath may not be your own respective goals or lifepath. For example, if your child is an introverted, artistic type, do not make him/her over to be an extroverted, dramatic type. Accept your child as is so long as he/she is not harming others or indulging in illegal/delinquent activities.
Good parenting is realizing that children will rebel and/or grow away from you, seeking his/her own identity. Many parents feel that rebellion is delinquent and an umbrage to their parental authority. They seem to want their children to be controllable automatons instead of thinking, independent individuals. Many parents feel threatened by their teenage children for this reasons-they want their children to be children psychologically when such is no longer necessarily the case. Just because children are rebelling and seeking their own identity does not negate their loving and respecting you as a parent.
Good parents know as their role must progress from parent to friend as their children mature. They are comfortable with the fact that their adult children are individuals with lives of their own. They are not intrusive parents as they have lives of their own. They live and let live as far as their adult children go.