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What are your (non-manipulative) "strategies" to make your adult kids call or visit more often?


I miss hearing from my daughter more often. I don't want to manipulate her like my mom somewhat did to me. Yet, I wish this could change. I try to always be upbeat and positive when she calls. I understand that's she's going through difficult times right now, but we've always been very close and love each other dearly, I know that. My counselor says she just has a different concept of what is comfortable space. Sometimes I can't sleep for the sadness of it all. (She doesn't know I write under this name, so no worries).

 

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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    Thanks so much 4wardthinker. I know that when I joke about it and take the seriousness out, she can handle that better. I like the complimenting first for her independence. Thanks for your encouragement.

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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    I'm thinking I should do the greeting card thing. Getting something in the mail is so sweet. My daughter doesn't respond to ANYONE's emails at the moment. She's going through an existential crisis I think. When we're together we laugh and laugh!

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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    Great! I don't have grandchildren, though. I know from my friends with grandchildren that that is really an entire family bonding experience. You're very blessed. LOVELY, adorable picture!

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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    Duffsmom, good idea. I did try that, but I can try that again. Her friend has been diagnosed with Huntington's disease and is in her 30s, so that is weighing heavy. I have to "buck up" and be supportive and find my own distractions so she has space.

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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    Very astute.The best thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.Make your home happy, fun, not serious, full of laughter. Keep writing hubs like ur "Tribute to My Wife" and your children will want to be there. Divorce did us in.


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    KatyWhoWaited 4 years ago

    This is a very touching story MJeannie and I think it's more common than we think. My daughter does the same thing when she's in a "bad place" - she withdraws and tries to sort it out. I think your right about the different developmental phases. :)