Do you ever confront your bully as an adult? What ever became of the bully?
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Laura: Sorry those terrible things happened but you. Thanks for your comments. Kevin
Yes, it qualifies as bullying--you just dispatched the situation post-haste to ensure it wouldn't be repeated. Good for you! Good for your father to give you that advice, also: about taking down the biggest threat first. Great lessons to pass along.
I totally agree, thanks for your comments. Kevin
peachpurple, you are 100% right: "...stand up and fight for your rights." Trying to improve my verbal defense skills, but I've got a long way to go. I'm too tiny to physically dominate anyone, except to accidentally step on jerks in my high heels.
It is good that you were able to avoid the pitfalls of gangland bullying. Many in those situations perish under the evil. The immoral society needs to be eliminated. This requires a strong managed moral group willing to combat the evil.
Excellent answers, both Sri T and taburkett! Sri T, I'm so sorry for what you went through and I can't even imagine how hard it must have been to, as taburkett said, "avoid the pitfalls of gangland bullying." You were smart to never go back. Peace!
Ha! You showed them--they'll pick on each other next (I've seen that happen often, too: one bully turn on another when put down by the original target).
Great answer! Especially, "... some of my friends were not prepared to do this..." and "This is a common phenomena" (sadly, you're right on those points). Thanks for your insights and for standing up for those who couldn't. You made a difference!
JMJ, I'm so sorry that this happened to you but glad that you were able to transfer out of the school (not an option for most, I think). Thank you for the advice on the Mind-Body Code and your benefits--you should write an article on it. Fascinating!
Tim, thanks for the math showing what a huge deal bullying really is. Quantifying gets attention addressed to the problem! I'm so sorry for your childhood problems, but love the playground solution story! Thanks for sharing your hard-earned wisdom!
Tim: Great analysis and obviously you also have a great memory. Unfortunately many of us forget or bury these types of unpleasant memories. In my case, I am not sure who was more intimidating, the classmate bullies or some of the teachers! Thanks,
Thank you Luara & Kevin. Kevin I agree with the teacher analogy, yet I ponder. A secret discovered by a fellow hubber I know as Lurana, a poet, is that ponder is a secret word I use. Pond is fluid & dynamic like water is and er is really ear.
Yes, this is bullying. I'm an expert only because I've been there, too. I was bullied my whole life, even by adults close to me who should know better because they were bullied, too.
Good for you! My parents are complete pacifists, so the only defense available to me and acceptable to my parents was ignoring it, which made it all worse. Bravo for teaching your kids effective methods!
Glad to hear that something positive turned out in the end.
Thanks for your comments!
So, you are saying it is the child's fault if they get bullied?
No - it was the parents fault.
When you teach your children to respect others, you must also teach them how to defend themselves against those who would "bully".
The child must be taught how to defend themselves.
This may mean carrying a big stick.
How can you defend yourself against teachers who would bully you and then lie to the administration? "YOU CAN'T."
Sorry - JThomp42 - but I did - filmed them while they were doing the act.
From that point on, no teacher ever tried it again.
In fact, several students who had not stepped forward against the teacher did so when the film was identified.
Good for you!! Wished I would have had that opportunity.
taburkett, can I send you a list of names of people that need proper education? (Starting with myself and my high heels--"Oh, sorry, did I step on you?"--that I wear now days.) Seriously, you should write a Hub on defending against bullies!
I'm sorry, it's wrong, but I just had to laugh at your story. I'm so glad that the kid was apparently not very injured, and it showed bullies you had a "breaking point" they'd best not test. Cheers to a quiet Sr. year!
Sorry to hear that there are so many morons on this plant, JT. It's almost (no fun intended) ironic that now days EVERYONE is "heavy", so bullying for that reason is probably minimal. Confront teachers for sure--NO excuses for them! Sorry again, J.T.
Sorry to hear about the teachers but I can relate and actually wrote a hub about that! Thanks for your comments.