attitudes and expectations towards the oldest child in the family?
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I completely agree. I know many children have it rough, but I think we tend to compartmentalize too much and over analyze.
It's better to learn the right way than to wing it. Education is always better than ignorance. There should always be improvement. There is no reason for parents to be abusive today with the new knowledge. If they are, then they need help.
Oldest children are told to be PERFECT, they are not encouraged to be children.They are EXPECTED to be the STANDARD BEARERS and EXAMPLE SETTERS for their siblings.They had to toughen up and not show any vulnerability.They MUST grow up AND FAST!
I am the oldest of my siblings and nobody demanded I be perfect. Also, I was not "forced to grow up and fast." Would you please stop putting everyone into your little theory box? I know...your finger is on the "delete" button already...
Oldest children are expected to be TOUGH and ADULT from early childhood.They are expected to be THE RESPONSIBLE one among their siblings.Oftentimes, they are saddled w/responsibilities from childhood on.They are punished THE MOST of all siblings.
Maybe that's your experience, doesn't means that's always the case. Sorry, but that's a cheap generalization.
From my observations,oldest children must be little stoics&soldiers from childhood.They must be adults,they have the shortest of childhoods of all birth orders.They must be ON for parents&siblings,esp. those from large families I feel sorry f
It's ok, IslandBites...GM evidently just likes to hear her side of the story! ...delete...I know...
YES! Oldest children catch HELL. They are the little soldiers in the family.They have to be on 24/7/365! I would not be the oldest child for all the tea in China. They have such harsh lives, whew! They are blamed for the things younger siblings do.
Many oldest children have no idea what you are talking about, GM. You must have seen some extreme cases.
You are correct, Dashingscorpio. OLDEST children have it the toughest of all birth orders. They are held to a more extreme standard than their younger siblings will EVER be held.Parental expectations are more draconian regarding their oldest child.
Oldest children, with very few exceptions, are held to a higher and tougher standard than their younger siblings.They are not granted any quarter and are expected to be perfect or near perfect at all times.They must be adults from early childhood.