First of all, I have no past experience, I'm seventeen.
However, I can answer you on a religious basis. The man that we consider a prophet have never beaten a child, have never yelled at anyone or blamed them for anything no matter how guilty they were.
Kids should be raised with kindness and wisedom. When a kid lies for example, never force them to admit their lies, that is the worst you can do. You should encourage them on being true and honest in all cases.
After all you're their parent, if you don't treat them right, who will?