I just read a hub called "Why Nice Women Don't Like Step-Kids". This woman admits she hates her step children and I'm just curious- 1.If you found out your partner secretly hated your child or children from a previous relationship, could you continue to respect and trust them? 2. Could you remain in love with that person? 3. No matter what shouldn't your children come first?
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I like your perspective. Its trueful and strong in image. I was glad to read this.
Wouldn't it kind of hurt you that the person you love doesn't love your children? Or is that a female driven emotion or thought path?
I tend to agree with you that it is probably more of a (female) driven emotion. We've often heard "There's nothing like a (mother's) love". I believe (men) are more analytical when it comes to child raising then women.
I say that because my husband said to me " It's you and I, our relationship comes first". And I kind of looked at him like.. really? Because my list is kids, husband & family then friends.
Dashing- I'm so sorry I accidentally deleted your comment. Can you please repost it? It was very insightful!
Most men don't get married to have a family. They marry the woman they love and generally accept what comes with her. This explains why some men abandon children when their marriage fails. They don't want to have anything to do with their ex-wife.
Hey you go GF!!! Right on, I feel you totally. I wonder how to make this a hot button topic? Did you read the Hub page I'm referring to?
Thank you Paula. If an intended does not love your kids, then the relationship is OVER. It is totally unwise to continue to be involved with a person who has negative feelings towards your children. Many children are ABUSED because of such people.
fpherj48, I LOVE your answer!!
Aime, what a very mature response and view point. I totally agree!
I totally agree!
Well, you have a very wonderful family, Kathleen.
No doubt you were a good mom yourself. That's how you ended up with such a great son!
Now you're a great grandma.♥
What a jerk...I'm so glad you got out early! I bet that was just the beginning of what that guy was capable of.
Agree with Ms. Ranoni. So many precious children are abused, even killed by such people. It is a sad indication of a society of how many people put their happiness and their significant other before the welfare of their precious children.
Speaking as a man who often dated single mothers when I was single there were times where I did not like a woman's children. It usually had to do with how they disrespected their mother or adults. Disliking a child doesn't mean you would harm them
Dashing- That is so true, just because you don't like a kid doesn't mean you will harm them. But not all people are capable of dealing with a younger weaker person they dislike without becoming a bully.
I am glad I stuck up for my kids and for myself at that time. Thanks for your input to the question.
Well, I don't know how rare it is, but I've known many loving step-parent families who stay together for decades and consider the kids exactly as if they were their own biological kids.
I'm sorry about your situation. Perhaps interference?
My thoughts exactly...but when I read the page "Why Nice Women Don't Like Step-Kids it totally freaked me out the things these woman said and better yet admitted to about their hatred for their spouses children!
So many of our precious children are ABUSED,even KILLED, by boyfriends, girlfriends, lovers, & stepparents. It is so horrifically selfish how people put their love interests/spouses ahead of their children. Unbelievable to say the very least!